We currently have a daughter and my husband is great with her (he had three sisters and lots of nieces). He really was happy when she was born. He says that even if the next one is a girl and he never has a son he would be happy. He will just raise one of the girls to be a tom boy and go fishing with him.
However, I can't help but think that he would be a wonderful father to a son. He would love to teach him how to be a man! As much as I would love another girl, I really want to give DH a boy!
Any thoughts? If you had all boys or all girls, how many kids would you have to try to get one of the other gender?
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I think my DH would be an amazing father to both sons and daughters. We have a girl now, and he's so sweet with her. I know he also wanted a boy so he could play sports, etc. But he quickly gets into the daddy/daughter role with our LO and plays tea, puts on a tiara, etc, and does it all with a smile
We're going to try for the same number of kids no matter what, doesn't matter if we have all girls. I'm the one who wants more kids than DH does so I wouldn't mind trying more for a boy... but he wouldn't want to.
persimmon / 1165 posts
I think my DH will be a great dad if we have a boy or girl. However, as our first child I think it would be better if we had a boy. My DH is very protective and if we have a girl she probably won't be able to date/wear makeup/do anything fun until she leaves for college!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
I don't think it matters. We are definitely done after two and won't be trying for a boy. What if we end up with 3 girls? I think having 3 hormonal teenage girls scares even me.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I think he would be the same parent to a boy or girl! If we have two girls, I want to try for a boy but my husband is afraid of having 3 girls.
pineapple / 12526 posts
I don't think it really matter either. We have a daughter and my DH is an amazing father to her. He always said he wanted girls and I think he'd be happy with only daughters.
However, my FIL died a year ago and I would love for DH to have a son. I'd love for him to share with our son the things his dad taught him. I know he also wants a son to pass down his dad's name to.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
@zippylef: We gave my daughter her grandfathers name!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I don't think it matters, either. i dislike the idea that my husband would be a "better" father to one gender versus another.
cherry / 241 posts
My first instinct was that he'd be a better dad to a boy first. However... when I started really thinking about him and a daughter, my heart melted! he would be absolute putty in that little girl's hand. So, I think he'd be great at both, honestly!
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
Hmm, i thought he would be better with a boy but seeing how sweet he is with our daughter makes me think he'd be great with both!
grapefruit / 4049 posts
he wanted girls both times and got his wishes! He also has three sisters and grew up with a lot of girls. We're happy with two of the same gender... not trying for a boy or a girl next, but if we are gifted either, we'd be happy. But also, even if we stop now, we'd be totally content. It would be interesting for both of us to experience having a son though!
grapefruit / 4582 posts
I think DH would be an amazing father to either. However, I have this vision in my head of him with three girls and the only male in the house is his big fluffy dog. And they would play the "we're outnumbered" card in a loving/endearing way. We have one girl now
He is so suited to women (he's def not your typical guy). Plus it was the same way with my dad so maybe there's some weird connection there. But he'd raise such a good man. We definitely need more like him in the world so I'd be happy to see him with a son
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I can't really honestly say because we have a son, but my husband isn't the "play tea party" kind of guy...at least, not to me. It could totally change if we had a daughter, I think.
grapefruit / 4235 posts
I think he would do fine with a girl but would be very intimidated. He had 2 brothers and didn't grow up around any babies, ever. We are due with our first child, a boy, at the end of January. I just hope that we get a girl someday.