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Exactly the same as you! I had zero problems conceiving my sons so I'm hoping that will also be the case for #3. I'll be 37 when we plan to start trying. I'm in a good groove with 2 and wonder how adding a 3rd will change all that. Luckily, I have my mom who really helps me out. I probably wouldn't consider a third if I didn't have family near by. Plus, the finance part stresses me out. But my heart really wants a third (DH is in agreement) and I don't want to regret not adding a child to our family.

I am kinda. Not for this pregnancy, but for future pregnancies and how old I'll be then. 33 and going for two more after this one arrives next month.

i haven't worried too much--i guess because i can't control it, i'm like hey whatever happens happens. at least for now (we're trying for #2, i'm 38).

Late to the topic, but yes. I'm 37, and we'd like to have 1 or 2 more. We've been trying for 19 months for #2 with no success. I worry because I had pre-e and PPROM with #1. I worry about the increased risk of birth defects. I worry about having enough energy to keep up with my kid(s) as he/they grow up. So in a word, YES.

We'll keep trying, though.

I was a little worried about fertility before we started TTC. Then I got pregnant on the second try, but that ended in a miscarriage. It took four more tries to get a sticky baby.

So, now I am pretty comfortable that the plumbing works, and I am not *too* worried about age being a factor next time.

But, I turned 37 two months after my son was born. If we decide to have a second child, then I will probably be 39 or 40 when s/he is born. I think being older will make it harder for me to recover from pregnancy and labor/delivery. And I am not thrilled with the prospect of being in my late 50s when I need to worry about paying college tuition.

But, I didn't meet my husband til I was 32.5. We got married when I was 34.5, and we took a year to just be married before we started TTC. I think we had a reasonable timeline and would not have wanted to rush things. So, que sera sera.

@ballerinabee: this.
My health, the potential LO's health.
But, we can't afford it so probably don't need to worry, lol. One and done unless I win the lottery.

I'm not worried. But if we do go for
#3 it will be sooner rather than later. I don't like the stress of TTC.

A little bit but not overly so. I'm 35 now and we'll be TTC #2 soon.

Yes, it definitely had some bearing on our decision to try for number #2 now vs. waiting a few years. We also wanted a smaller age gap, but given other things going on in our lives (my husband's health issues), I think we would have waited longer if we were younger.

I was less concerned about our ability to get pregnant than I was about the risk of miscarriage/genetic issues going up and my energy level going down.

As it is, I will be 37 when #2 is born. I used to want 3 kids, but I have a feeling that this will be it, primarily due to my age/energy level. We'll see though...at least having #2 now leaves that possibility open in my mind. If we waited until I was 39 or 40 to try for number #2, I probably wouldn't feel comfortable trying for #3 at age 41 or 42. The article that @looch: posted makes a good point about the risk of chromosomal abnormalities still being <1% into the late 30's, but the way the rates jump up each year scared/scares me, even though I know the overall incidence was/is still low.

Yes but I worry about everything! Honestly all of my friends but one have had babies very easily over 35. The one person who didn't did finally conceive naturally after almost 2 years TTC. I wouldn't go thinking I had all the time in the world but I also don't think trying after 35 means you won't conceive quickly.

I got a little frustrated after a few months of not getting pregnant, then at 6 mos ttc we did get our BFP. Unfortunately, lost that baby at 6w & then my worry started to set in about how long it may take to get a sticky baby. Fortunately, we got pg again 3 cycles after m/c & we are now 12w along with what appears to be a healthy baby. I'm 41. I'm only a little worried now that the getting pg part is behind me about recovery from birth & my energy levels raising a baby & then child, but not enough to not dive in head long & even day dream about #2. It's all good.

I worry about it a little. We're 36 and 37 and have agreed to sort of NTNP until we get some other financial situations sorted out. If we were younger, it wouldn't be such a big deal, but at this age, every little thing that makes us have to wait is super frustrating. We don't have any kids yet, so it's nerve wracking not knowing if we will be able to get pregnant when we want.

A little. I am 33 and have a 2.5 year old and am due with #2 in April. We probably will not have a third, but if we do I wonder about the timing, particularly as I do not think I could handle having another too quickly after #2.

I worry if we'll have a second. We tried on our own for a while i.e. I did nothing to prevent once LO was six months old. I'm now on my second IUI cycle. I'm 41 and LO was an IUI baby, pregnant at 38 and delivered at 39.

@looch: I that article.

I'm 33 now and would really have liked to have had three children.... I do worry about my age - not so much the conceiving/health aspects but coping with two more newborns as an increasingly older mother. I look back to my twenties, when I would party all night, most nights, and still get up for work in the morning. These days, I really need my sleep!

@MrsMed: You should come join us on the IVF thread-- there are a few of us going through stims, retrievals and transfers right now.

@MrsMed: I meant to put a link. Sorry!
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-2/page/28

@MrsMed: Just seconding the motion to have you join us over on the IVF thread! Lots of ER/ET coming up over there!

Yes, I have recently started to worry about this...again. I'll be 34 in a couple of months.