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When DD was about a month old I yelled at the dog for jumping on the counter and stealing my lunch. DD freaked out. I haven't yelled since.

I have. *shameface* It usually happens at bed time when she will not let me put her in the crib after even an hour....or two. She usually immediately cries. At which point I feel like the scum of the earth.

@pinkcupcake: I've yelled in the exact same situations!

I have and I feel horrible afterwards. It's obvious that he doesn't like it (Duh. Who would??) and I try VERY consciously not to handle my anger/frustration that way.

DD says, "Yelling hurts my ears and my feelings." At which point we apologize and go over the proper way to express displeasure. Having children is a very humbling experience!

I have really cut down by adjusting my own expectations of the kids, but I am a yeller. And only to my kids. I feel like a horrible person when it happens. But my DS immediately cries, and my DD will shrink back in horror. What a bad feeling to see that happen.

Just a handful of times have I actually yelled, and each time I worked harder and harder not to do it again. Mostly when she's about to run into traffic or something where I'm very scared for her safety. My father was a yeller, and it made me really unhappy.

Now, I'm an emotional person, and I raise my voice not infrequently. But she's well used to that - it's just how we do things around here.

@locavore_mama: Well, this is what happens when you try to teach your child emotional intelligence. All those phrases you repeat ad nauseam for their benefit (e.g. "DD, yelling hurts our ears and feelings. Can you use a gentle voice and your words to explain what is wrong?") end up getting repeated back to you... often.

Once, when she was 4 or 5 weeks old, I yelled not at her, per se, but at the situation because the PPD had hit and I thought I was losing my damn mind. I still feel guilty about it.. it really upset her and I immediately called DH and make him come home because it made me realize that I wasn't handling maternity leave as well as I thought.

Oh, and usually it's just her name if it happens, or sometimes an OMG!! It could be not even AT her but I feel guilty when it happens.

If by LO you mean my 11 year old, then unfortunately, yes. My little-LO, no {but sometimes I really, really want to}.

I have never actually shouted at her.... I raised my voice a few times but I wouldn't say yelled.... She's still too sweet to get me too worked up yet.

I've raised my voice and it doesn't faze her. -.-
I've had to stop raising my voice though, because she started raising hers back at me! Omg!

I yell at the dog. I cover his ears so he doesn't get startled or scared of me

I did guilty. I was doing pretty well for a very very long time (whatever he does doesn't get to me) until I started implementing time outs (21 months). Then the line gets blurred and I found myself yelling/warning to give time outs. I do not like that at all, and I hate to always threaten LO. So now I am putting time out on hold and try to get back to my old self.

Umm... LO was screaming in her crib today and I went to my own room (door closed) to scream myself. LO freaked out even more. I felt awful.

No, I sometimes get really irritated and take on a bit of an irritated tone with her, which I hate, but for the most part, I make a really conscious effort to keep a handle on my emotions. She's not quite 17 months though so we'll see how it goes as she gets older. I really hope I can keep calm - I'm not a yeller by nature so hopefully that doesn't change.