I have one friend who talks money like she is talking about what to order for dinner. She gets mad cause I won't tell her what we make.
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no our friends do not talk about this. My cousin asked me one time and I was thrown off and told her the range.
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I think it's really rude to ask. If anyone asks other than SUPER close friends or family (I still think it's rude!) I just say "enough".
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No, it doesn't really come up!
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No, my BFFs know the range I'm in for the most part and that DH and I make the same, so I'm sure they can figure it out but we never discuss exact amounts.
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That's awkward! We don't discuss how much money we make with others.
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I don't think I've ever had anyone directly ask, however with my close friends we are all pretty open about that stuff. I don't really feel awkward about money personally, but I respect that others do.
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Yes. I was a teacher so my salary was pretty transparent. DH is extremely private about his salary.
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LOL at your friend.
Yes, some do but we don't really see it as a big deal.
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My husband's salary is public information so if someone really wanted to know they could find out. No one has asked what either of us make, except for my mom haha
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Lol nope!
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Most of my friends that are privately employed don't ask. We all tend to know the ranges, though.
I do find that people who have their salary published, like public sector employees, are more willing to talk and ask about it, because their salary is out there for all to see.
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No way.
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We don't really talk about it. The only time stuff like this comes up is if we are job-searching. Some of my friends know how much I make but I don't ask them. I am very comfortable talking about money and how much things cost but I know that I am in the minority so even if someone asks me how much I am paid or how much I pay for something I don't turn the question on them.
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Most of our friends don't ask! My BFF and I have talked salary though because we share everything, so it's not a big deal. I think I'm be embarrassed to share our income with most of my friends though because together, Hubs and I probably make more than most of our friends (we're both engineers).
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No.. I mean we have an idea of ranges but no one talks about it in the open!
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No and I'm really glad they don't.
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DH is in the military. If you know his rank, you know what he makes as base pay.
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Never asked (been curious though) and no one has asked me!
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Yup! We don't mind so much if it's super close friends and family. Even then I find it kind of weird/awkward sometimes! It's just out right rude if someone asks and you're not even close to them.
There are some people we aren't even close to and ask us money questions all the time like how much did we buy our car for, or our house or this or that. Really????
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Nope. Neither friends or family know.
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DH's friend(s) have asked.
Mine for the most part do not.
I am very private for the most part about it, DH didn't used to be, but now he's more private about it.
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Nope.
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I don't mind talking about money on any level whatsoever, but I know it bothers a lot of people so I don't ask. My DH is a teacher so everyone knows what he makes and they are not shy talking about it!
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We have one couple that does - it makes us a little uncomfortable because we're pretty private with our money, but we indulge their curiosities.
We are only open with our parents about our salaries. If my sister asked I would tell her, but she's in a completely different place in her life, so it's probably not even a question she would consider asking. We've vaguely discussed ranges with DH's siblings, and we're always talking about when we get raises and promotions (not value, just that we got one), so we're all aware of each other's ranges.
But friends... not something I like to talk about.
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Nope, never. When DH was working, his salary was published/public knowledge so if someone cared enough, they could figure it out.
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I think a lot of it is how close the friend is. Also, it could just be a family/culture thing. For instance, money is spoken of freely in my family. My mom knows what we make, how much we pay for rent, how much debt we have, how much we paid for our car, etc. I don't know why - its just normal in my family. Perhaps its a Korean thing?
On the flip side, my (white) Midwestern in-laws do not know a thing about any of our finances. DH says to talk about anything related to money would be extremely impolite and frankly just awkward for everyone involved. He doesn't care that MY family knows about our business because its "normal" for us, but we keep a double standard when it comes to his family.
So if a friend asked me what DH made, it wouldn't weird me out per se. I'd just think about who's asking me, how close we are to them, and WHY they wanted to know. But that's just me.
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Nope!
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No way would I answer that. I can't think if anyone has actually flat out ask us, but even when it's just an implied question, I dodge it. I never ask about money and I never ask about how much land someone owns if they live in the country. I get asked about alllllll the time when it comes to my parents ranch, and I feel like it's the equivalent of asking how much money you have in the bank, invested, etc.
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Nope! I'll talk salaries and money with my BFF but not because she asks, just because I feel comfortable sharing and discussing. I'd feel very uncomfortable if my friends flat-out asked me that and I don't think I'd answer. I'd probably laugh it off.
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They've ask and we've obliged, it isn't that big of a deal to us if they're close friends.
@Mrs. Blue: I really never looked at land like that, I have people ask how much property my parents have all the time and they're open about it too. Granted it isn't a huge ranch, but it's a nice sized vineyard. Now I'm kind of embarrassed for asking others in the past.
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Nope no one really asks. Only our parents know what it is.
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Other than our tax/investment folks, we are the only people who know our incomes. I don't see how that information would be relevant to anyone else. I have been asked in a round about way numerous times, but never directly (chicken shits!). I just dodge the question with *why do you ask ?*. . . and go from there.
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I'm a teacher, so my salary is public information.
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Nope!
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no, although they could probably figure it out because i work for the government and the info is public.
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I work with my family so my dad determines my pay and my sister does the payroll, so we all know what each other makes! It's no big deal though, we don't get hung up on the numbers or who makes more than who because it's all very fair. As far as friends go? No one has asked and I wouldn't ask anyone.
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No, we don't talk about it!
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No, but I sometimes share information like when DH gets a raise or little things with my really close friends.
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We have 2 distinct groups of friends. Our one group doesn't talk about money at all. Our other group, we all know everyone's business. But there's no judging, and we're all just starting out.
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