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It is kind of a loaded question since DH is an alcoholic

If he wasn't, no it wouldn't bother me as long as it was communicated that those were the plans and he didn't drive

@anonysquire: why do you have to babysit him to make sure he doesn't throw up? if he has more alcohol in him than his body can process, the natural response is to vomit to avoid absorbing more and having complications from overconsumption. in this case vomiting, as long as it's not aspirated, is a good thing!

Sometimes DH has to burn off some steam (he's in the restaurant industry) and I am totally fine with it... as long as: 1) he isn't SHWASTED- that's not attractive at any age let alone 31. (He's gotten like that once in the last few years and he was so embarassed- it was due to him drinking on an empty stomach and I was with him sober driving.) 2) he has a safe way to get home and is with trustworthy people. 3) It's not an ALL THE TIME thing. 4) It's his own $$, not him blowing off steam on our family dime.

I think it's situational... but like you put in the poll if he's safe that's mostly what matters.

Nope. Dh got rid of his get drunk days before we met and is really good about his limits even tho he is a tank. He's respectful on guys nights and rarelt stays out superlate either.

The only time DH has gotten drunk since I've met him was his bachelor party. He doesn't even have a sip of alcohol, ever. So yes it would bother me if he got drunk.... because it would just be weird for me.

DH and I don't really drink in excess anymore - our wild days came to an end before we started dating one another, and we've only seen the other drunk a small handful of times. He's really chatty when intoxicated, and will repeat the same story several times. If anything, I would be more irritated listening to him ramble, and would probably just lock him in the bathroom with a pizza and a jug of water to talk to himself.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest-- as long as he and his friends are safe; no sweat off my sack.

It wouldn't bother me with DH, but he wouldn't ever do it.

My ex, though...not long before we split, he came home wasted one night and completely missed the toilet...by an entire room. I was so mad that he peed all over our bedroom carpet. I told his entire family and anyone we knew, because I wanted him completely humiliated about it. At least he peed all over his paintball gear, too, which was a point of contention in our relationship. Serves him right.

DH got trashed recently at his company party. I had my company party the day before, only had a beer and a half. When DH was trashed, it had been so long since he's done a lot of social drinking that I found it hilarious. Especially hilarious was his request for "one chicken taco." So funny. I got him gatorade, tacos, and got him to bed. I had sushi by myself as he slept off his hangover. Hilarious!

Yes, but because that's not him at all and he NEVER gets drunk. Ever. so I would be very worried if he did. It'd be very out of character.

He told me he's only been drunk once in his life and it was before we met.

Dh has been sober since just before I met him (5 years now). It would really bother me if he was drinking!

@mrs. wagon: Smart!! We're totally implementing this rule!

I'd be upset. However, it's not the drinking or night out that I care about. I'm 100% fine with DH having a good time with friends! My problem is that when he does this its on a night when he doesn't have to work the next day. On days that he doesn't work I count on him to help with LO or at least be alive enough to even just be with us since we don't see him much during the week. When he gets drunk he is totally out of commission the next day. He expects me to feel sorry for him and basically just let him sleep all day long which is usually the opposite of what we were planning for the day.

Luckily he doesn't go out and get drunk like this very often, maybe 2-3 times a year. The ideal scenario would be going out, getting a good buzz and still being fine the next day. I would have no problem with it at all. It's the playing 30 games of beer pong, etc and getting absolutely wasted that pisses me off.

If it was a planned night out and I knew about it, I wouldn't mind.

Officially, it wouldn't bother me if he got silly drunk but deep down it would (Id never let on to DH because he rarely goes out without me and he deserves his fun). It bothers me the morning after when he's hung over and refusing to do anything!

DH is super sweet when he's merry though so I can't be mad at him!

if i'm drunk too, then its ok if its just him and he sleeps on the couch (he snores MASSIVELY when he is drunk and i am a light sleeper) then i'm ok with it! we both like to drink and he has dealt with me being drunk a bunch of times. i am worse than he is and he's so good at dealing with me. he is pretty controlled even when he is wasted. i haven't been wasted in over a year though.