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He does and I like all of them! He had lunch with some of them the other day.

None that are just "his" friends. He has some acquaintances, but that's about it. Although his sister is one of his best friends! Luckily I like all the ladies in his life

Yes, but none that aren't friendly to me. He doesn't hang out with a female friend alone, only with a group that includes guys and girls.
It doesn't bother me at all, but if a woman was hanging on him and saying negative things about me, I'd have issues.

He has several. I think he was one of those guys who always fell into the friend trap whenever he met a girl. So now they are all friends. And I know and like them all - usually we're invited out as a couple, but sometimes they'll meet for coffee. I don't have a problem with it - I trust him so much, plus he'd die of guilt if he ever strayed. Having said that NONE of his girlfriends behave like you are describing. I wouldn't be ok with that either.

Yes, he has a few. I'm pretty friendly with all of them though.

Yes... One of his best friends is a girl - and yes I like her!

My best friends from high school are guys, including my BFF - but DH doesn't love him, but he likes him more every year.

Each of our opposite sex BFs were in our wedding 1 guy with the bridesmaids and 1 girl with the groomsmen

Oh - and that behavior is definitely not cool.

um, no. That's just not OK with me.
That being said, he is "friends" with all of his friends' wives and all of my best friends. By that I mean, we all go out as couples and they get along, talk and joke. But they don't communicate privately or when I'm not around. If things need to be said, they go through me. The only time he would ever call my friend or his friends wives is when he needs to find me or one of his buddies and relay a message.

I think I have (had? ugh, it's hard to maintain friendships when you move cross country) more guy friends than DH has girl friends.

He had a girl friend when we lived in Texas, and she was perfectly nice, so I didn't mind at all if he did something with her when I had other plans (I knew if I was free, I would be welcomed, too).

BUT I have (had?) a guy friend that DH doesn't like because he's convinced the friend had a big crush on me, or did "inappropriate" things to me, like touching my arm too often, or what-have-you. But we disagreed about that, because I knew the friend before I knew DH, and he's like that with ALL women (I genuinely don't think it's flirtatious, I just think he gets along better with women), and he's cluless about relationships and what "not okay" to do once someone's in a relationship, and finally...we were both single at the same time and I feel like if he really DID secretly like me, he would have tried to do something in that time. Which he never, ever did. In fact, we never hung out alone---just in big groups.

So I thought DH was too sensitive, and he thought I was missing "all the signs".

So maybe it's similar to your situation, in reverse? Kinda? (or maybe I'm reaching here- lol).

@septemberlove: i'm not sure if you are even asking our opinion on your specific matter, so if you are not, then ignore me! But if you are:
I fully agree with you. I'd be super annoyed. If she doesn't like you, DH shouldn't like her. Bottom line.
And touching him? and inviting him to things that his SPOUSE is not able to come to? That's soooooo out of line. I can totally understand if you dislike this chick. Honestly, I'd work on cutting her out because people like this can be detrimental to a marriage. Even if DH has ZERO interest in her, she can still cause arguments and feelings of tension within your marriage, and that's just not fair to you and your marriage.
I can "take care of her" for ya if ya know what I mean *smack,smack!*

Not really...I know he's friendly (texting, occassionally facebooking...) with a mutual ex-coworker of ours (we all used to work together) but that's about it.

I'm kind of relieved he doesn't have any close female friends - I'm the jealous type so it would drive me nuts, as much as I hate to admit it!!!

DH only has one female friend, the wife of one of his best friends. He's known her for years and if it weren't for her, we wouldn't even be dating! Even without having done that, though, she's an awesome person and I'm glad to know her.

I totally agree with you though. If my DH had a 'friend' like that who acted like that way, I would tell him the exact same thing about 'don't expect to remain married...' She's obviously out to stir up trouble and cause grief. That's a really unhealthy friendship and I would talk to your husband about it.

My husband's best friend of 20+ years is a woman. She and my husband talk almost everyday on the phone; she lives across the country so we only see her a few times a year; I'm sure if we lived closer they would do things together a lot and we would also hang out as couples a lot.

It doesn't bother me that his best friend is a female. I like her, she likes me.

@septemberlove: she was livid when she found out you were expecting? details!!

Yep, one of his closest friends is a woman--she was his "Best Woman" at our wedding. He's always had more female friends than guy friends. I like his friends, I consider them my friends now, too.

@septemberlove: I don't like this friend of your DH's. Not cool.

I find it hard to embrace the concept of this woman being your husband's "friend". She doesn't act like any friend I'd like to have.

My husband has tons of female friends, and I don't care if he hangs out with them without me. I like all of them. But they don't act like that crazy co worker of your husband's, they act like normal women and therefore it's not an issue.

Yep! I like all of his female friends. He has one (his old boss) that he goes out to lunch with at least once a month. I love her though.

95% of his friends are also my friends. Most of our friends are male, but a few are female.

Your DH's friend sounds frustrating and passive aggressive. I think it's fine for your DH to hang out with this girl during work hours, but if she's going to make it so obvious that she doesn't like you, I don't think he should hang out with her in the evenings.