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I think he might? It sounds funny to say, but I think it's possible I notice what/how much he drinks more now.

Pre-baby we lived in the city and went out quite a bit with friends (often separately) and he also worked pretty late so I would be asleep long before he came to bed. For all I know, he could have been drinking a bit while watching TV/winding down from the day.

But now that we have LO and are in the suburbs and rarely go out, I definitely tend to notice every little thing and yeah, it seems like he drinks a lot. I'm like you in that I don't see the need and I'm annoyed by how much money we spend just on alcohol. I have maybe 2-4 drinks/week, so I'm definitely on the lower end of the consumption spectrum.

Well, LO isn't here yet but I will say that I told DH he can't STOP drinking once LO arrives since I don't feel like it would be fair to me, lol! We are both big drinkers and I have been looking forward to resuming my nightly cocktail after the baby comes so I would be upset if suddenly he was sober once I was finally allowed to drink again.

But I did notice he went through sort of a heavy drinking phase while we were TTC and after I got pregnant. I remember the week of the IUI I was worried since he had events every night that week (it was during the holidays) and didn't hold back at all with the booze. When we were at the Dr.'s office he still smelled like alcohol and I was worried it might affect our chances! Then after I got pregnant instead of scaling back since I was no longer drinking, he kind of took it up a notch but it turned out to be just a phase. He's now only a weekend drinker and he limits it to one per night even then.

While it did begin to worry me a little, I never gave him a hard time about it because he was still getting to work just fine, making it to the gym every day and if anything he was even more helpful around the house. So it was purely him unwinding and adjusting to the new situation.

I want to say he drinks less? Definitely started drinking less while I was pregnant because I couldn't drink with him. Now, after baby, I haven't started drinking again, but we're so busy in the evenings that he doesn't usually get around to his nightly drink(s). It might change once I start drinking again, though.

@BeachMama: I noticed this too with my DH over the past year. I find it very obnoxious. We've spoken about it but no change thus far. Sorry you are dealing with it!

No, I think he drinks less since her arrival. He used to do happy hour one or two nights a week with coworkers but now comes home right after so he can see LO before she goes to bed. Weekends he will have some but very rarely has too much anymore (something he occasionally struggled with before LO arrived)

No, actually he drinks less. Possibly because I do too & I was the "big drinker" in our relationship.

@artbee: Ugh, that's so annoying! My DH has weird little rules like this but, as he is on some really hefty medication now and can't drink, it means we have to forgo the other thing - like, he wont eat curry now (my favourite food) because "you have to have beer with a curry".

@maybebaby: That sounds awesome! I hope we get wine! lol.