We just asked one of DH's sisters. I'm wondering whether to tell my family who we chose in case anything happened (hopefully it won't!!!) and everyone started wondering what would happen with LO. Should we just make it common knowledge who we chose?
Does your whole family know who would take care of LO if anything happened to you or DH?
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Probably friends. Both our parents are too old. I hope nothing ever happens to me, DH and I just had the conversation he would be screwed without me!
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We chose my parents (they are currently 43 & 45) but aren't making it public knowledge because the ILs already think we treat them differently than my family. Oy.
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@matador84: We are lucky in that we have nine siblings between us to choose from : ) We went for the sister that isn't in a relationship and doesn't have kids, but is the kindest, sweetest girl you could ever meet and we know she would always act in LO's best interest.
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@sorrycharlie: Oooh that's tricky. I'm thinking I might tell the parents on both sides who we chose and leave it at that....
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We are going to ask my sister. As soon as baby is here, we are having a will drawn up. We will probably tell a couple people but all that matters is that my sister knows she gets her.
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@travelgirl1: Nice to have so many people to choose from. I'd maybe make sure someone on your side is aware, just in case.
We don't have kids yet, but we don't know who we'd pick. Combined we have 4 siblings, but 3 of them are young/students/jobless and are no where near being ready to take care of a child. DH has an older brother, but him and his wife are adamant that they only want one child, and enjoy their lifestyle how it is. I guess we will cross this road when we come to it!
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We've asked my SIL and her DH to take LO should anything happen to us. I have told both of our parents our wishes (and it's in our will) but haven't told my sister. I know it would upset her, and I'd truly rather leave her with my sis, but she lives so far away from everyone. It makes more sense for LO to stay close to the entire family rather than move to another city to live with my sis and her hubs. Tough call for us though.
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We're planning on asking friends, but I am afraid to tell my family...I think they, especially my sister, would e very offended.
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@hilsy85: This is why I just haven't brought it up with my sister! lol! I really don't want to hurt her feelings, so it's just in the will and that is that
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@prettylizy: yeah we need to write our will still, but will probably not tell her...
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We have asked DH's uncle, who is just one year older than me, and his wife to take care of DD if something were to happen to us. We are keeping this quiet though, because it will cause undue stress and undoubtedly hurt feelings in the process. We have multiple siblings but none that are old enough or equipped to raise kids. We know this aunt and uncle would take care of DD like one of their own. We have very close friends that would be our second choice. All of this will be going in our will, which we really need to get done!
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We chose my sister as primary and my mom as secondary. We have not told anyone else. It will be a huge uproar if we do. DHs MIL will freak out bc we didn't choose her.
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We picked my SIL. Her LO is only a few months older so we felt like she was a good choice. She's right there in the thick of parenting and we both feel as though she'd make the best decisions for our LO. My mom knows and understands our decision. We havent actually asked SIL yet, DH wants to wait til LO is born. The other big plus of picking her is that all DH's family is right there and could (and would!) help as much as SIL needed.
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We have not decided yet. We'd probably ask one of Simon's friends. They will have a baby about 3 months older than ours and they are raising their child a similar way to how we want ours raised. We don't really trust any of our siblings.
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We told the person we want to take care of lo obviously and our parents.
I don't want to tell our other siblings.... I don't want to start drama and have to answer questions about why we didn't pick them.
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We haven't told anybody but that's because we still don't know who to ask. My mom is financially incapable, and DH's parents are in their early 60s. Both of our sisters are pretty irresponsible, not people we'd trust to raise our daughter. We'd probably end up going with DH's parents.
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We picked my bro and SIL. And my parents know. My MIL and hubs' sister would be very jealous if they knew so we aren't telling. Hopefully they'll never need to know. But if God forbid something happens to us it's in our will so it couldn't be contested.
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No...We haven't discussed this. But we should because there would be a tug of war.
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@sorrycharlie: ok. Your parents are my age. Wow!
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I would leave my kids to my parents or older brother. I don't trust anyone else. I've already left my cats to my older brother in my will. So I'll just whiteout the cats and add kids. Only kidding!
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