My mom lives about 1200 miles away and I'm really looking forward to her coming to visit for about a week after Baby Girl (BG) is born. I also feel very strongly that I want at least a week at home alone with just me, BG and DH. DH just started a new job, so he's probably only going to get a week or so off, and I really want that to be time just for us.

Aside from all that, I hope to be breastfeeding and I don't want to worry about whipping it out in front of my mom or my stepdad (whom I love and is coming as well) or sequestering myself in a room every time I want to feed BG in the beginning when we're just starting fo figure it all out.

Finally, I've heard from a ton of people that I'm really going to need help around week three or four, after the adrenaline has worn off and the sleep deprivation is really getting to me. I think I'm going to take this tactic with her. As of right now, I'm due Jan 12 and she plans on arriving (they're driving) on Jan 18. Too soon. I also feel I'll go later than the 12th - my due date is based off my LMP but I know I ovulated late in my cycle. I tried telling her this already, but she says her boss won't let her have the time off at the end of the month. So, my perfect solution is that she comes in the beginning of February.

How do I approach her? I want her here, but not immediately. I'm thinking about going with the "I'll really need you in the beginning of February..."