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Eh, I don't agree but I am having more issues with losing weight after round two.

This hasn't been the case for us.

Yupppppp. DH is already badgering me about more and I just want to curse at him.

FWIW I think life will be much improved once one of two things happens: I start working again or DS2 gets to one nap!

@googly-eyes: I think the author failed to consider some other factors too. Like how hands on the father is, or how easy/difficult the 2nd child is. For us, having two kids meant dividing and conquering a lot, which meant DH took on A LOT all on his own, which meant less resentment from me.

Since I was nursing, the majority of my time was spent with DS while DH handled our toddler... and in many ways handling a baby was easier than dealing with an opinionated, strong-willed toddler. My 2nd was a really easy baby though!

I just felt like everything was more equal right from the start the 2nd time around since we were both seasoned parents and knew what to do, so that's why I say I disagree with the article (at least based on our personal experience).

@Mrs. High Heels: I completely agree with everything you wrote lol.

I feel like we've had a more even distribution of "kid duties" since #2 came along. My husband really stepped up and is especially helpful with my toddler. I EBF so the baby is pretty dependent on me. My second is also a pretty easy baby so our experience is definitely colored by that as well.

Both of us are happier since #2 was born (Even though, obviously, we were also extremely happy to have just LO #1!).

I found this very interesting! Thanks for posting it.

I'm not sure I consider short term happiness very important. Like most, I'd guess, I make decisions about family size with the big picture and long term in mind. I know very few people who think the first two years are the easiest or the most fun!