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Agree with @mrs. bird! She will always know that you are her mama, and there will be no substitute for you. She will be very lucky to have an extra person love her, but you will always be her mama and you'll never be able to be replaced

Hugs. I think a lot of parents get emotional about leaving their kids with nannys or daycare but it will be ok! She will look forward to seeing you when you get home every day!

Big hugs. I sobbed daily for the month before my mat leave ended. Being back at work ended up being good for me though despite not wanting to go back. DD ended up adoring her nanny and having such a blast. It became about another person loving her and her having more love in her life than her loving me less.
My mom worked when we grew up and I'm still in touch with our nannies, but my mom is my mom. She'll always be number one.

I feel you! Dont worry, she'll definitely know you're her mama. No question about it. I won't lie tho, going back to work is hard and SO emotional. I dreaded it for weeks and even extended my leave by a week cause I was just not ready. The first day I dropped DD off I cried alot. But it got way easier. Like @mrs.shinerbock: mentioned about thinking that LO is getting another person to love her. I feel fortunate that we have a great nanny that DD loves. It makes being at work so much easier knowing she's well cared for and having fun.

I went through this, and it gets easier, I promise!!!

An amazing thing about childcare is that your child begins to trust other people, and by having a nanny, you'll be setting the tone for possible date nights, too.

We had a nanny from 5 months until now at 14 months. I loved knowing that baby was in our home, and well taken care of. You could always have (and disclose) a nanny cam so you could at least see baby.

We start daycare next week (for socialization), and I feel the same way again.

Sending encouragement!!

We just went through a rough nanny acquiring spell (mostly an issue because LO knew too much who mommy and daddy were and screamed bloody murder for anyone who wasn't!) but things are going much smoother now. I agree with @littlejoy - we got a couple nanny cams and while they don't get much use per day, the ability to look in for a few minutes while I'm at work and watch LO being sung to by the nanny or getting ready for bed really helps! I never thought we'd use/need them until we had issues with her crying with the nannies, and now I don't know how we could survive without them!

Awww. I went through this, too. It's hard and it's still hard sometimes, but my LO knows who Mommy is. She loves her nanny and honestly after having a really sucky nanny previously, I am so happy that my LO loves our new nanny and is so happy with her.

Your LO knows who her Mama is. And she may respond differently to your nanny than she does to you, but that doesn't mean anything! My LO will nap for nanny but not nap for me unless I sleep next to her because she wants me!

Hang in there. No one can replace you.

Hugs - it will get easier. I had the exact same feelings when I went back to work and DS went to daycare. It was so hard and I wanted so badly to quit my job but still get paid. He was also 3 mos. I called all the time to check in and I knew he was in good hands. My mom watches him as well and she sends me pics all day about what he's doing and any updates (maybe your nanny can do this?). It's great when she does this - I miss him like crazy but I love seeing what he's been up to.
And you know, he knows who I am and who DH is. Your DD will know who her mommy is!

Oh, I wanted to come back to add: there might be times when LO cries when you get home & the nanny leaves or doesn't seem excited to see you, it's not you! Transitions are hard, even good ones, like mama coming home, she will always appreciate when you're home, even if it doesn't come across that way in the moment it'll be hard, but it'll okay

I used to work at a daycare. Even the kids who were there 50 hours a week preferred their mamas to everyone else!!

It's extremely hard, but it WILL get easier. Depends on how your baby is too. Take care of yourself and do what's best for the whole family.