My son (3.5) always seems to cry or whine every time he's told no. I get that it's common and normal but in his case it feels excessive. I don't think he's ever just said "okay". Is there something I should be doing differently? I always tell him "I'm sorry you're upset" and then explain why the answer is no but then it doesn't stop and I end up having to just tell him to stop crying. Sometimes it feels fake and sometimes he's genuinely upset.
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@leighleigh: I think you are responding appropriately. If you can, I’d just say if your upset maybe you should go sit down or lay down in your room until your are done crying. After speaking with him I would ignore it. A lot is done for attention or in hopes to change the response from you.
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@leighleigh: I feel your pain and just logged on to post something similar..I might still do that but also wanted to commiserate. DD2 just turned 2 and her language is exploding but I think sometimes she gets overwhelmed with not getting what she wants and resorts to crying and no matter what I do comfort her/talk calmly it's really hard to communicate and get her what she needs. I've read a lot of Janet Lansbury's stuff and she always insists that sending a kid to their room is not productive because when kids act out they need to be comforted. I get that in theory but it's hard sometimes and I definitely send my kids away just so I can think and calm down for a minute. DD2 is so damn loud when she cries!! Anyways I think I will continue the tactic of talking calmly and explaining why I can't give her what she wants and I would encourage you to do the same. Good luck mama--Let me know if you have any breakthroughs cause I need some help!
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