DH's family lives an hour and a half away, and comes to visit fairly regularly. Sometimes once a week, sometimes less.

Lately, when they have showed up, it's been right before Lo1's nap (1:00). Sometimes I'm okay pushing his nap til 2:00, but he usually takes a three hour nap and he will be grumpy if he wakes up after five. (Of course, he won't be grumpy with DH or the grandparents, just me. And he usually acts out more with me when they are around, so it's much worse).

Wednesday, FIL stopped by at 1:30, literally seconds after I put him down for his nap. LO heard him and didn't go to sleep. Then they played loudly and woke lo2 up. We had company coming over for dinner that night after FIL left and the boys were just a wreck. I had called DH to ask when he was coming and he had told me four o'clock. I had said, "okay, because when they stop by between 12-2 it throws off naps." FIL had texted DH and told him he was going to get there at 1:30 but DH didnt see it.

Today, MiL is coming down. She said she was just going to leave in the morning. Then she texted to say she would be here by noon. Then she texted again to say she made a stop and it will be 12:30. I'm pissed because the kids are sick and need their naps. Mil is slightly better than FIL because she will help put him down for a nap, but she spends an hour (!) doing it. So it will be 2:30 or so before he gets a nap today, if at all.

Ugh, I am annoyed. I've just rolled with it because I don't mind if our schedule gets thrown off by an hour or so. But now that it means no nap and they are sick, and it's happening more and more, it's just not okay.

I told DH earlier this week he needed to talk to them about it. He obviously didn't. I don't want to bring it up now because we had a fight last night.