What are you giving your SO for father's day? I need ideas...desperately...
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DH has always wanted a hammock. I got him a travel hammock he will be able to use on some big trees we have in our back yard. I hope to be able to make a card with LO.
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My DH wants to go to the movies. His aunt is going to watch DD while we go. He also wants to take DD to the zoo, so we'll do that too.
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@jhd: @Mrs. Pickle: Ahh! Lucky you all that your DH wants something. Mine doesn't want anything. He is traveling for work for a week starting tomorrow. Just now I asked if he wants to do brunch at Ritz on Father's day he said no. I said how about brunch at this place he said no. Then he said what about if I don't want brunch and just want to stay home? Grrr. The thing is he really did an over the top getaway for me for mother's day, and now it left me "stranded" with no ideas, let alone matching what I got. I feel a need to at least make an effort to do something lol
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What he always wants is a family day celebrating with his dad. So we will start with breakfast in bed. Hang out as a family doing whatever he wants. Then have his parents, brother & gf over. Steaks on the grill. His perfect day.
The girls and I will make him a card and handmade gift. I got him a DAD camping mug in honor of our fire pit he built last year..
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@irene: but if that's what HE wants I wouldn't force something else. KWIM? I've found females to usually want more elaborate to dos. But men just want to stay at home and relax! LOL my DH would HATE going out to brunch on a holiday!
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I think we're going to an antique car show.
In the past, I've given my husband an hour helicopter flying lesson...which he still has to use, lol.
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We don't give eachother gifts very often.
Last year we went on a bar crawl with T she was only 4 months so it was easy. He got a pint at each place and we got lunch- really fun.
This year we are going camping at the beach.
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I got DH this personalized wallet from House of Jack on Etsy:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/286462049/carryall-magnetic-front-pocket-wallet?ref=hp_rvAs far as what we're doing? NO idea. I think DH would probably want to just have the day off to go fishing.
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@irene: if he doesn't want to go out, why pressure him? Why not just do what he wants? I would get him a gift - even if it is just a framed picture of your child's hand/foot prints.
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A personalized Yeti rambler. And some sort of photo gift of our girls.
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@mediagirl: @regberadaisy: I know, you guys have a good point. Maybe we'll just stay home. If I make breakfast, he would eat it but he wouldn't like it. He claims he doesn't like anyone's cooking other than his own (and granted, he is a very good cook). Then if I cook, he'd need to watch DS which it is not something he'd love doing too.
I think for a day of exactly what he wants, it would be just me and him going out without DS (which we really seldom do unfortunately) and him getting laid (TMI, but true lol). But it is father's day, and I kinda lack motivation to find child care.
And in terms of gifts, I honestly have no clue what to get him. It has been so bad that I stopped buying him gifts for his birthday because he makes an effort to go back and return them as he didn't like anything I get for him
I do frame DS' drawings, and our family photo and give it to him as Christmas gifts, those he got two years in a row already and his office will be out of space to put them (and honestly those are the only gifts he sort of use). One year I did make a blurb book of all the father and son pictures.... I am not sure where that book is anymore. That's something I can do but it requires so much effort and I am kinda out of time. Grrr. @looch: the helicopter lesson is such a wonderful idea!!! But I have a feeling / know for a fact that DH would also not use it and I'd be continuously nagging him. So I guess not.
Here's an idea.... I could get him a massage treatment and make an appt for him on Father's day. We'd drop him off at the spa and I'll take DS for an hour or so so he can relax and enjoy. But then it is something that I am scared to do without "consulting" him, as I am sure he'd be dreading to go and say how this is such a bad idea and he didn't want it the first place (even though I know he likes massages) blah blah blah blah blah. Gosh.
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Why can't you get a babysitter and go out for lunch or dinner just the two of you? It sounds like he just wants some kid free time. A date night sounds great to me!
My DH wanted to go on a hike with the family. So we're putting the kids in our hiking backpacks and will go exploring, and then finish with beers and a pizza. I always get him some keepsake for Father's Day. One year it was he and my son's handprints, but often it is a picture frame with a picture of him and the kids from that year. He might not put up each frame, but I think it will be nice to pull them out years later and remember each Father's Day.
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@irene: if he does not like your cooking he should cook his own breakfast. Or even better, you go run errands and he and your son can spend a whole day together bonding 1x1.
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@DenverMom: yeah but I feel bad, because FATHER's day is about father AND son. not father and mother go out and leaving the son to a sitter... just doesnt sit well with me.... not to mention we don't have recurring / dependable childcare and it is a pain to find someone fresh just for this.
@youboots: hahaha. he doesn't want to be left alone with DS. that's not a "gift" LOL
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@irene: I think Father's Day is about whatever the Father wants. Plenty of moms want child free time on Mother's Day. My DH wants to go out without our daughter. I don't think it's a terrible thing to want.
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@irene: If I recall, you were pretty disappointed because Mother's Day wasn't what you wanted. I suggest channeling that memory and trying to make a point of giving him what he wants. Ask him how he'd like to be celebrated and then do it if it's reasonable. I think that was a lot of the suggestions around Mother's Day was for us Mom's to say what we want and then helping to make it happen.
My DH ordered himself a Yeti, while I was in the process of getting him one. I told him so. Now I have a lovely plain Yeti and his personalized one is coming in the mail.
My DH also only likes his cooking or a few restaurants. So I will NOT be cooking. But I will suggest we dine out for breakfast at one of his favorite places so he doesn't have to cook breakfast for the rest of us.
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@irene: What about getting him some killer ingredients to make dinner for the two of you after your kid is in bed? I am also the family cook and I love doing it- making a super special romantic meal would be a big treat for me! One year for our anniversary I made roasted oysters with chipotle butter, a big tomahawk steak, and chocolate pot de creme.
I also often just get DH a really nice bottle of bourbon or Scotch for gifts. It's a big splurge for our budget and he can appreciate it for a long time.
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My husband has to fly out for work mid-day so I guess we will probably just go out to breakfast and drop him off at the airport. He did a complete crap job on mother's day so part of me doesn't want to do anything, but that's not nice. So I will probably have LO make him something. He's been saying he wants a Yeti (why are these blowing up all the sudden?) so maybe I'll get him that.
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Mine wants fishing gear. Fishing gear he shall get.
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Would he be interested in a steak of the month club? The Butcher's Market near where I live is offering a 6 month steak of the month club.
We're on a tight budget now so though DH would like the steak of the month, we are going to focus on smaller gifts - do what he wants that day - probably go out for a coffee or buy him a bag of specialty coffee he can have at home; same with beer. -
DH wants to play golf....alone
So that's what he will do
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Rather than giving specific suggestions that he shoots down, why don't you just ask an open ended question about what he DOES want, and make it happen.
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@MamaG: No that was previous year(s). This year's mother's day he hit it out of the park.... way out - weekend getaway, massage (me only) and yoga class, and brunch with my best mom friend + my son's best bud. and i did make breakfast brunch suggestions in several restaurants and he said "he just want to be left alone". hmm.
@caterw: That's grocery shopping and we do that every week! hahaha. It's better he just go by himself. Gosh. Why is he so picky?
@autumnleaves: He would either be too picky, or we are not sophisticated enough to get onto a "steak of the month club"! We cook steak but we probably can't tell the ok steak from top of the line steak... is that what it is about?
@Mamaof2: I thought about getting him golf lessons too but I am sure I'd hear things like oh this is not the exact one i want .. bleh.
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@irene: I also think it's about getting him what he wants, not what you think it should be. My DH wants a kids free date, and I think it's fine. Maybe when your DS is older, your DH may be able to enjoy something with him, but when you have young kids you just want a break sometimes.
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@irene: Oh man to the picky husband, I know how that goes! They make gift-buying so stressful!
Since he said he wants to stay in, but won't like it if you make breakfast, what about just getting donuts, or cinnamon rolls, etc . and a new movie to watch in the morning, with a cute handmade gift from DS?
Can you set up a tee time maybe with a friend of his for the afternoon?
Since he's so picky I'd just straight up ask him what he wants to do otherwise, which is what I plan to do! -
@Pumpkin Pie: Trust me.... if I had a reliable babysitter, I would have organized that already
@Truth Bombs: @josina: I did ask him straight up what he wants to do, which he said he would like to be left alone, and he said he really doesn't look at this as important as women does. I am very close to throwing the towel... maybe I'll make a card with DS and be done with it. Grrr. So hard to be nice nowadays.
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I didn't read through the suggestions, but is there anything you could get him a 'subscription' to? A coffee subscription, or razor subscription? They have them for everything nowadays. My husband did a sunglasses one for a while. I think I'm going to get DH a coffee one for Fathers Day.
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@irene: then I would give him what he wants. No use driving yourself crazy over something that won't be enjoyed or appreciated. It's unfortunate that he chooses to just be left alone for the day, but it can still be a fun day for you... Plan something exciting to do with your son for the day.
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@irene: In his defense, I would have looooved to have a day alone to myself. It would be such a recharging treat.
I do frame DS' drawings, and our family photo and give it to him as Christmas gifts, those he got two years in a row already and his office will be out of space to put them (and honestly those are the only gifts he sort of use). One year I did make a blurb book of all the father and son pictures.... I am not sure where that book is anymore. That's something I can do but it requires so much effort and I am kinda out of time. Grrr. 
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