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@crazydoglady: I'm not even pregnant with #2 yet (but am in my 18th cycle trying) and sometimes I feel so guilty about wanting another one. Like I'm being selfish or my son isn't enough (which I know is totally crazy), but I definitely get the being conflicted.

I think it's totally normal though. You know kind of what you're getting into on the baby front, but you're growing your family by 25%... You're totally changing the family dynamic of your life, it's scary and exciting I'm sure.

@crazydoglady: I felt exactly the same way 6 months ago when our second daughter was born. I was so sad to leave my “baby” (3YO) to go have a new baby. It was so very emotional.
I cried and cried. But you know what? It was all for nothing. The second I finally held my new baby girl, I knew everything was going to be OK. Plus, DD1 had an amazing weekend with her grandma! She loved coming to visit us in the hospital. It was all such a neat and memorable experience for her. In fact, she asks me all the time when we can go back to the hospital and have another baby! 🤣 All this to say...go ahead and feel these feelings. But know that they will pass and turn into joy beyond joy. Trust me.

@crazydoglady: I super stalk some too no judgement! I'm hoping I get mine within 3 cycles because that's all I can get out of my doctor after 6 clomid cycles. And I'm honestly kind of scared of doing anything more than oral meds.

@MamaBear87: Ahhh ahhhh ahhhh congratulations!!!!!

I’m having my third this fall, so obviously I’m team more babies. I love it.
But I will say this- loving more than one child is really hard sometimes! It took me awhile to say that to myself but it’s been really helpful. It’s kind of like the bittersweet pain of loving a child that is growing up so quickly before your eyes. Loving two children has meant that I can’t give either of them my all. I am okay with this (team more babies), but it doesn’t necessarily make it less painful.

@crazydoglady: I felt this way when I was pregnant with DS (now 3) and DD (now 10) had to stay at home while my mother watched her. I had to have a csection, and due to complications, was in the hospital for a week. Hubby was active duty ARMY at the time so he was splitting his time between 1/2 days with his co and then at home with her and the hospital with me. I was so overjoyed with the birth of my son; however, I felt like (somehow) by having him, I was taking away from the life she had known and found comfort in. The "mom-guilt" was strong. Now, we've been trying for #3 (34 cycles now with unexplained 2ndary infertility) and I KNOW I will feel the same if I become pregnant again as my DD will be pushed further into becoming a "big girl" (* those teen years are SO close!) and my DS won't be "the baby" any more. New familial identities with the shift JUST because mom has an insatiable need to have another baby. Long story, short - I feel you, it is normal, it is hard ... You are not off your rocker. 🧡 Best of luck with the new bundle!

@crazydoglady: I felt the exact same way when I had DD. In fact, I insisted on putting DS to bed (while I was in labour 🤣) because I knew it would be the last time he would ever be an only child I still get teary thinking about that night. It was an adjustment of course, but it’s been so amazing having 2 kids!

@crazydoglady: I posted on your wall

@crazydoglady completely normal although it does not make it any easier! My second is almost three months and I still have moments but it definitely has gotten easier.

I cried a lot the first few weeks about missing my first born. We moved in December and have not gotten to know our neighbors that well yet, I was out walking with the baby probably 3 days after she was born and burst into tears when the woman asked about my son! She was very gracious and has two kids so she completely got it. It is very common, hugs! Just know it may continue after the baby is born.

I had the feeling of not being able to meet both kids needs fully when I am the primary caregiver when I am home normally. I do work outside of the home. I am just the one that does dinner, bath and bed time normally. I felt like I was not holding the baby enough but also missed my son terribly. It has gotten much easier and better.

I am trying to take him out for special adventures just he and I. I also am looking forward to drives home from daycare just the two of us.

@qbbride I did the same! I was in labor and still did bed time etc for the same reason. I did not even mention to my husband that I was in labor since I knew if I admitted it then the dynamic of our normal routine would change and I did not that want that. Momma love it strong!

So normal. I think it really depends on the kid too. Like if we were to have a third I wouldn’t be worried about DD2 at all, but would be concerned how it would impact DD1 because she’s so sensitive. I will always remember how little DD1s hand looked when I put her to bed the night before DD2 was born. I still get choked up thinking about it! I was pretty upset my entire second pregnancy because I agonized over how another baby would affect our family dynamic (and it was planned!). I can’t say I don’t still wonder (like, maybe if we had spaced them further it would have been easier), but that has everything to do with DD1s particular personality.

I felt that way leading up to it and the guilt after he was born - oh my. I felt like I had ruined DS1s life. Even though he was totally fine! I think a lot of it is hormones and it’s a big scary adjustment. And yeah, it might be hard for your first child for a little while.
But it doesn’t last! You’ll get into a groove and you’ll see that the older one is totally fine and it will pass I’m 6.5 months in and I want to say that the guilt only lasted for a couple of weeks.
(But admittedly my older one transitioned extremely well, we didn’t have any negative reactions to the baby ever).

SO normal!! I was extremely emotional when baby #2 was about to arrive. Actually, I was semi-sad and dreading it about half the pregnancy even though I was still excited at the core.

There's a video my husband took of us when they brought DD to meet DS for the first time at the hospital. I was holding DD over the bassinet and couldn't stop crying--I was very emotional (though SO happy about our new baby boy!). I think the pregnancy hormones didn't help. I recall feeling a ton of guilt for bringing another baby into the world when DD had been the center of our universe.

But let me tell you, those feelings dissipate so quickly! We're so crazy about our second LO we're even trying for our third now.

When our first came along, I recall mourning the end of that chapter with just my husband, too. Change is hard in general and even more so when you get adjusted to life as first time parents, and then preparing for it all over again. It might take a few weeks or even months to get adjusted at first but then you won't be able to imagine life any other way--so cliche but so true. You'll be fine!

@Becky: That made my eyes water. Literally how I felt when I was pregnant with baby #2.

The night I went into labor with baby #2, DD was sleeping upstairs in her crib. Once my contractions started to get really painful and I knew we needed to leave for the hospital soon, I walked up the stairs and into my DD's bedroom for one last embrace with her as my only baby. She was sleeping in my arms but I will never forget that moment--ever!

@crazydoglady: Best of luck today, praying for a speedy uncomplicated delivery.