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@KelLeeLeee: I think those odds are also for women in their 20s. That gives me even less hope.

@As Time Goes By: @KelLeeLeee: I was also thinking about this very thing over the past few days. My girlfriends all think I am NUTS for using an ovulation monitor, checking CM, etc...none of them went to these lengths and still conveived in the first few months of trying (4 months or less). They have responses like, "if you just have sex around day 14, you should be fine...that's when everyone ovulates, right?" Ha! Most were blown away when I mentioned that I ovulate around day 23 and that a short luteal phase may cause me some problems when concieving. None of those issues even occurred to them! Ugh...I feel a little jealous that most of my friends can just "wing it" when it comes to getting pregnant. What is it they are doing to get pregnant so quickly?!

Sorry for my rant...I am sure most of you girls have felt this way at one time or another.

@Bigskygirl: I have 12 nieces and nephews (and only 2 siblings). I've DEFINITELY thought this!

After my MC my SIL asked if we were going to try again. I said I wasn't sure if we were going to exactly "try" since we weren't when I got pregnant before, but we weren't going to prevent by any means. She responded with "Yeah. I never really understood why some women put so much effort into conceiving"

I don't fault her for saying that, I mean, she looks at my brother a certain way and she's pregnant again, but man. what I wouldn't give to not understand why women do everything I'm now doing!

@MaryM: I posted on your other thread about my sister letting me know she's pregnant again... Second surprise for her! She doesn't know we're trying, but she made a comment about when I get pregnant I should try to be due in certain months... as if it is that easy for everyone. She didn't mean any harm by it, but I wish it was that easy!

@As Time Goes By: I'm the same. I figure sharing opens me up for more of the unwanted advice like "Just relax and it will happen!" or "I know a person that got pregnant as soon as they stopped trying" or whatever.

I also fear if people knew we were trying, my MIL would be even WORSE at poking us about giving her grandbabies soon.

@loki: I cracked up at "i'm like well.... statistically, there go my chances of an easy time." I totally get that. I may have had similar thoughts... If all of these people around me have relatively quickly gotten pregnant, am I going to be the 1 in 10 who struggles?

Ugh all these crazy thoughts I'm sure don't help, but I won't tell anyone to relax and not think about it!

@MaryM: my sister getting pregnant made the grand baby talk intensify so badly because all of a sudden we all needed to provide grand babies so they are close in age!?!

@MaryM: I was in the same situation before our first. Luckily now that we have one everybody's off our case.

I think AF is finally showing up so unless I O early, i'll be rolling over August. Glad to be getting started on this cycle!

@loki: I was nervous before my first month too. But there's no set limit or people who can get pregnant in a given month.

@kelleeleee don't get too down on yourself yet! You're not out until you're out! FX for you!

@KelLeeLeee: sorry.

Thinking of all of you! Sorry to those who got BFN or AF and come on BFPs to those in waiting. One reason I lived the 6+ thread is because it can be very hard to watch people come and go and not have your own BFP. I can't think of ONE person though that was TTC when I or pregnant with my son and doesn't now have a baby. The journey might not have been easy but the vast majority of you will get there. HUGS!

@googly-eyes: I would've tested by now if I were you I really have to work on my patience! My poas day is 11dpo. Not sure I'll make it that long.

Good news: I'm pretty sure I ovulated this month! I was worried because I just stopped birth control 2 months ago and hadn't temped before. Below is a screen shot of my chart… I'm confused because FF says I O'd on CD17, but I felt symptoms (cramping, softened cervix) on CD18. I didn't get EWCM this month, but lots of watery CM. I guess ultimately it doesn't matter THAT much which day I O'd, on, but I'm just curious what your thoughts are. Either way, I think we timed BD it pretty well!

@yellowbird: I don't blame you.. I have one cheapo test from walmart and one frer so I'm trying to wait! @MrsMccarthy: I think with dd the test was positive at ~12 dpo (not a squinter) so maybe 11 days would be long enough? That'd be tomorrow. We'll see how patient I'm feeling.

@googly-eyes: thank you!

@googly-eyes: my first is 8 years old and my 2nd is a Feb 13 baby!