Ts birthday is coming up in 10ish weeks and my sister is designing the invites so we are trying to figure out how many to order. We are doing it open house style at a pizza place- like 1-3 and buying pizza & pop for everyone. There will be a salad bar and beer on tap if people want to do that.

For a first birthday do you just invite everyone? For us that would be 45 invites (not including out of town) and about 100 people. Does that seem excessive?

My Aunt said people like to get invites even if they live out of town. My Mom said not to put no gifts on the invite but I don't want to seem gift grabby to out of towners.

I'm a little stumped but have to decide soon. Thoughts? Is this too many people? Do I send to out of town family? Perhaps with a note and photo?