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I pick up other kids (4 year olds, too) for play dates so she might be open to it! It might be nice for the twin to have her own special play date, too.

My LO has twins in her class and we'd definitely invite both over for a play date.

I would say you should offer to pick up the friend and let the mom have "one on one time" with the other twin.

I know they're still little but being a twin myself, my sister and I always hated that everyone thought of us as a package deal and rarely invited just one of us to do something even if the other wasn't even friends with them. The twins are going to want (at least some) of their own friends eventually.

i would be hurt and offended if you invited one twin and not the other... i think the twin not invited would feel the same way.

Well, I don't have twins but I have 2 kids who are 2 years apart. We do a lot of play dates and I almost always bring both kids, because as PPs have mentioned, it's not feasible or practical to hire a sitter just to go to a play date. I would rather not have a play date than to have to hire someone and pay like $50 to attend a play date.

The only times I go solo is for birthday parties when only one kid has been invited (most people actually invite both of our girls), because Bday parties are usually on weekends, so my husband will stay with one while I take one.

If LO knew the parent/friend well (and if I knew them well.), and they wanted to pick up oldest LO and take her solo to the park or to their house, I think I would be fine with that. Or a drop-off play date. But there's only 1 mom in DD1's class that I feel like I know well enough for that kind of scenario.

Babies are too young at this point so I don't know how I feel but I can say, I don't know if I would be too fond of someone suggesting to pick my one twin up. I would want to be there while the kids play... you know so I can make sure my one kid is behaving. If we had a few playdates already, I could see myself being a bit more comfortable with you picking up my child.

I would still suggest a playdate that is big enough that possibly one twin could go play with your daughter while my other kids can play in a separate room or area. I would prefer to take all of my kids (I only have two but she has more) to the playdate. A park sounds good to me because it's free. Also, since she is a single parent, she might not even have time.

I would ask her if she is willing to meet at a park for a playdate.

I know there is no way to ask this because you certainly don't want to invite yourself over... but if her house is big enough, I would probably tell you guys to come over. Unless the purpose of the playdate is to be away from home. Then, I don't know.

I wouldn't exclude the other twin at this age. My twin friends separated more as they got older and I shared more activities with the one but honestly even as adults it's always been an open invite for both. And coming from a big family I saw lots of kids who'd try to exclude my sisters if we were on the playground bc they just wanted one person to play with but I think it's a good skill to learn to incorporate others at times even if they're not your bff

@mediagirl: you've gotten some good responses here...the only thing I am thinking is...it's gotta be isolating to be a single dad to twin girls! If I were in that dad's situation I would be glad for anyone to reach out to me.