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I'm stuck in the middle of one of these situations right now! My cousin and I are very close, but my husband thinks her husband is odd and doesn't feel comfortable around him. I'm going to stay with her this weekend with our LO (she moved 3 hours away) and my husband is complaining how he doesn't want to go. I told him he's uninvited at this point because I just don't need the stress when I just want to catch up with my cousin!

I have a hard time hanging out with people I dislike. I usually just try to ignore them. It's definitely put a damper on a few friendships but lucky for me they got rid of the guy so we can move on!

Bottom line: I think it can be difficult to have couple friends because all 4 people have to like each other a lot to spend a bunch of time together. That's why I treasure our closest friends so much, sometimes it works awesome, but you can't force it. I have a really hard time faking it. My one friend I've had this issue with I will hang out with 1x1 and see her husband in moderation, that works for me. Ultimately, I never know what a relationship looks like on the inside, so while I may not enjoy someone's company, their relationship with their SO may be great behind closed doors.

@shopaholic: our issue was that she wanted him to be around all of the time, so sustaining a one on one relationship with just her wasn't working! I tried to get used to the guy but he was such. a. tool that I just couldn't deal.

Yep absolutely. DH and I have a few friends that we have drifted apart from partly because we aren't huge fans of their SOs. I have encouraged DH to see the friend (it's usually guys so I feel a little weird hanging out 1 on 1, since the friend was DH's first) but they don't seem to want to make the effort so neither does DH.

On the other hand it is soooo awesome when you find a couple that you connect with! I had a male friend from work that my husband met, and we have gotten to be friends with his wife too. As a bonus, he has a son the same age as our LO.

I can only think of one instance. A close friend of mine dated a not so stellar guy for awhile. We hung out maybe twice all together. It was always strange because I felt like the guy never wanted to be there and he was really anti social around us. I never said anything to the friend though, not my place. Fortunately, they broke up and her new man is awesome, so awesome that they are engaged. I approved of him the first time I met him.