Just looking for some perspective....
Back story: the “friendship” in question began about 6 years ago when I responded to a childcare needed advertisement for a family. In the last 6 years, I have not only babysat for this family (I was single and no children at the beginning) but moved in with them when the Dad of the family underwent a bone marrow transplant. I have loved their 2 kids as my own and have always thought very highly of the family and considered the Mom to be a close friend. Fast forward to present day and I’m now married and a mom to a 1.5 yr old. I still babysit for this family every week and we asked them
to be our daughters “Godfamily” when we found out we were expecting. I’m a very sentimental person and take my relationships very seriously. However, in the last 6-8 months, the Mom has changed. Honestly, I’ve bever felt like they have done anything “special” for my daughter since she was born (like offer to babysit/spend quality time her, come to her dedication after party or her 1st birthday). I’m not asking for much but my daughter adores the 2 kids—like her own brother and sister. The mom has recently bought a new home in a very high end neighborhood (we had been neighbors) and her attitude just sucks. She used to tell people I was a “great friend that happens to also be an amazing nanny” but yesterday, not only did she publicly humiliate me in front of her new “high society friends” by ignoring me at swim practice I take her kids to, but she introduced me as “my nanny” in a very snobby way. Like it was more of a status thing for her. This is just an example but little things like this keep happening and it’s really pushing me away. I have already decided that I’m going to quit being their nanny at end of summer (mostly for reasons outside of the recent situation) but I’m stuck on how to move forward.
Yes, I’ve tried a number of times to talk to her (gone to dinner and whatnot) and all she talks about us herself that I walk away defeated. I despise confrontation and while she may acknowledge my feelings, she is the type that will try to turn it around and make me feel stupid or bad for assuming she meant to hurt me. But she talks bad about alot of people and if the next best thing comes along, then what used be isn’t good enough for her (like our neighborhood before she recently moved—both are brand new neighborhoods but houses in mine are in the upper 300k and her new home was 600k)
What would you do? Like I can move on without talking to her but how do I handle the “Godfamily” status? I know my daughter will grown and make different friends but I hate seeing this happen. Asking them was a big deal and a decision we took seriously. But she’s just not the same person.
I could just use some advice and encouragement. Thanks!