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Everything @blackbird said!! What a miserable person; clearly breastfeeding didn't make her a decent, normal person so it can't be the magic unicorn tears she thinks it is.
I'm so glad you are getting help! PPD is so common, but so rarely talked about (outside of forums like this). You're a strong woman and a great mother to be getting the help you need.
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You know that what she said is in no way, shape, or form a reflection of your worth as E's mama. BFing is hard and complicated. It can be a good thing, but it is NOT always the best thing. You are doing the best thing right now. You are taking care of yourself, and you are taking brilliant care of your little girl. And I can't tell you how much it made me smile when your husband stuck up for you like that. People can be cruel sometimes, deliberately and otherwise, but your love for your child can never be fit into such a narrow view-- it's simply too big and too wonderful for that. Hug, hug, hug. I think brighter days are coming.
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@Cherrybee: oh friend. I am sitting here confused because I can't decide whether I would have open-handed-slapped that woman or closed-fist-punched her. I am fuming with rage just thinking about it.
I am so glad your husband was just as angry for you and called to complain.. The fact that even though he couldn't do anything about it but could not just sit idly by speaks volumes about the kind of husband and father he is. High five, dad!
I am so glad you have decided to get help. Honestly, the fact that it's getting worse and no better is a simple sign that you should at least talk with someone who knows how to deal with this VERY common problem many new moms face. Good luck and keep us posted. And thank you for being so transparent with us! We are all rooting for you!!
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@CherryBee: If there was ever an asshat who deserved to be cunt punted, it would have been that nasty piece of work in your Ped's office. She will get hers. In spades. That's the way the universe works. And your DH is straight up, 100% (a Norse is a Norse O' Course O' Course) ROCK STAR. He gets mad props for calling and complaining about the soul-less harpy in the waiting area.
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Hugs! I can't believe that woman said that to you! I agree with everything blackbird said.
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I agree with what everyone else has said... And my heart breaks that that nasty woman made you feel that way. You are 100% doing the best thing for your baby and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. E is your baby. You are her mummy and know what is best for your situation!!! What did the witch do when you cried? I hope she felt like a bitch cause she sure should. Where do people get their manners these days. Anyways enough of a rant from me. I really hope you feel better and I wish I was around the corner to come hug you (we could have our own little mothers group
) this just makes me so grateful to HB that we are here to give each other support no matter where we are in the world. Keep your chin up girl - you are doing a great job.... And by the way I totally love your husbands style
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I can't believe that woman! Your post made me so sad. Can't believe the way people have been treating you... Nobody deserves that. So glad you're getting help now... and your husband is a wonderful man!
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@MsLipGloss: cunt punted. You win at life.
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What a rotten thing for that woman to say (and good on your DH to call the surgery and complain!!). But I'm very glad that you are getting help for PPD and want to give you lots of hugs for your strength.
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This infuriates me!!!! I wish I would have been there to advocate for you and tell that woman to STFU. Why any woman cares how another woman feeds her child is beyond me. I'm glad you have such a supportive husband and hope you feel better soon. xoxoxo
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*big hug* That woman's comment was totally uncalled for, and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I am glad that you're taking the steps you need to help with PPD. I had some seriously bad days in the beginning with my first LO, and sometimes I'm scared that PPD will hit me now that I have a toddler and infant to care for. Being a parents is one of the toughest jobs, and you're doing great. Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise. We're all here to support you.
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I am so glad that you have such an amazing husband! I probably would have been too shocked to say anything, but I would want to rip that lady's head off! What a witch. You are an amazing mama, and I'm glad you are going to get some help so you can feel 100%!
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@JoJoGirl: That would seriously have been a *hold my earrings* moment for me . . . !!!
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That woman was a beeyotch and crossed the line!
Hugs to you mama. I hope your doc appt goes well!!
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I hate people sometimes, especially ones with no filter.
Good for you for getting the help you need. It's so important to ask for help, it takes a village. Don't forget that.
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Oh sweetheart! That woman is a bitch. Plain and simple.
You are doing a fantastic job and are a wonderful mother!!!
Don't be ashamed to seek help. I had to do it also. It really will be so much better. -
CUNT PUNT!!! YESSSS.
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@MsLipGloss: Cackle!!!! You have SUCH a way with words!! I
you!! @Mrs squirreld: She just sat there! Then the lady next to me (the horrible woman was opposite) got up and came back with some tissue for me. As she gave it to me she said "its hard seeing them cry, isn't it?" (E was sobbing in between gulps of formula because of the vaccinations). I wanted to say "actually, it was her who made me cry" but I just nodded.
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@Cherrybee: Big hugs to you for taking the steps forward to overcome this. You are a wonderful mother, doing what is best for E, so don't listen to some rude bitch of a woman in the waiting room who knows nothing about your situation.
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@Cherrybee: Sweeeeeet. My work here is done!
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@MsLipGloss: YOU WIN AT LIFE
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That is one of the rudest things I've ever heard- that woman should be so ashamed of herself!! Acknowledging that you are suffering can be so hard, and you've already taken that first step. I bet you will feel so much better after meeting with your doctor and coming up with a plan. Hang in there mama, there are better days ahead!
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OMFG, I would have knocked that bitch's teeth out. Im so sorry.
But the silver lining is that now you're going to get some help. Much love, babes.
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For shame! That woman had no business criticizing nor giving opinions!
You're a fantastic mother and sending you a big hug. I know you'll be feeling so much better very soon!
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Hugs! I hope you feel better soon. You are a great mom!
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@loveisstrange: Exactly! I think "I'm really not okay. I need some help" at least twice per day at the moment but then never call for an appointment. But this time I was in the doctor's office when the crazy crying happened so I marched right up to the desk and sorted it there and then!
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@Cherrybee: Im really proud of you for taking steps to take care of yourself. It's cliche, but the hardest part is acknowledging you need help. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, I promise.
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I want to fly over and give you a big hug!
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@Cherrybee: First, I am LIVID about the BFing comment. I am so, so, so sorry that anyone would say such a terrible thing to you. I"m not in the middle of PPD, and I would absolutely start sobbing if someone said that to me. In a perfect world, you and I would be able to BF our LOs, but that's not the cards we were dealt, despite our best efforts. I have happy, growing 8-month olds who love their mama like nobody's business in spite of not BFing them very long and never exclusively. It's not like we're giving our kids rat poison! Geez. Formula may not be "best," but it's pretty frickin' amazing. That woman should be publicly shamed for things outside her control and see how she likes it. *I'm soooo angry right now on your behalf.
Second, I am really glad you're going to get some help with the PPD. It's the first step to feeling better, but I know it took a lot of bravery to realize and acknowledge what is going on. You're doing the right thing!
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@Cherrybee: Good for you, darling! And I want to punch that woman who was next to you. What a TERRIBLE thing to say and assume! There is nothing wrong with formula feeding -- it doesn't make happy(or sad) babies any more than BF'ing does!
And I would have been upset at being ostracized in that mummy meetup as well. People can be so catty. I'm sure it was awkward enough going in mid-session, and then feeling like everyone had it together but you.
They were all there at one point, new and not knowing what they were doing. Shame on them.
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@Cherrybee: (((BIG HUGS)))
There really are nice, kind people in the world. I promise. I hope some cross your path soon!
Good for you for making an appointment and getting some help! That's a big deal! I'm proud of you.
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I am so glad you are getting some help. Every time I read your posts I want to give you big hugs. It takes a lot of bravery to take those first steps. Big hugs! I hope you are feeling back to yourself very soon.
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That woman is a horrible, horrible person. I want to junkpunch her for you! That is just awful. I'm SO sorry you had to go through that.
I am really glad you've reached out to your doctor to get support. Very proud of you. Big big hugs to you!
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@Cherrybee: You are doing the absolute best for your LO by reaching out for help. That makes you a rockstar mama. Big hugs!!
OMG, can HB make those 'Formula/BFing moms, I support you' signs with phrases like "Formula feeding moms, I would slap that b*tch for you." That's love.
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WTF, that woman was completely out of line.
Hope you get the help you need.
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Shame, shame shame on that woman. It is one thing to have an opinion about breastfeeding (I do), and it is another the entirely to berate an obviously struggling woman! I would NEVER! Breastfeeding is not so great that we need to go around hassling women who aren't doing it. What a cruel, horrible person. You do NOT deserve that, regardless of how you feed your baby! Not for a damn moment!
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Wow what a horrible woman! I'm sorry you had to deal with that, and well done for getting help!
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hugs hugs hugs mama. don't listen to crazy ppl saying that kind of crap to you. i am so so happy that you're finally getting the outlet/help you need to get through this!!!
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Ugh why do people say such nasty things?
Big hugs and I'm glad you're seeking help.
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@Cherrybee: Big big hugs to you. I've been there, and you are not alone. It is the hardest thing in the world, and you are doing GREAT as a mama. You have NOTHING to be sorry about, but I've been there too. If you lived nearby I'd help you out in a heartbeat.
That lady should shut her judgmental mouth. Just because something is better nutritionally doesn't make it best for every family... If I bought all organic but I could only buy 1/4 of what we needed for meals would I be doing what was "best"? Or if I bought all organic at the expense of my mental health would that be "best"? Some people just need to learn to see the bigger picture.
And she's a bitch and a horrible person for not bothering to even apologize. If I had been there she would have heard a f**king mouthful.
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