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I would do surrogacy for a close friend or family, although I don't think I'd be a candidate because I seem to have my babies at 35-36 weeks. I love pregnancy, and my husband would be ok with it (I actually asked him about this before). I would want to do it after we were done with having our own babies, so I think I would also be too old at that point.

In the right circumstances, I would probably be open to either. I think both would be incredibly challenging for me emotionally. I can't even imagine the pain of giving birth and going home without a baby... I know that it would be changing someone else's life in an amazing way, so I know that would be comforting but still hard. I'm not a good surrogate option since I had LO at 34 weeks (although I had a great pregnancy!).

I am less open to egg donation, especially in light of the hormones that it takes to retrieve the eggs and some risks attached to that.

I couldn't donate my eggs, I would see that child as mine. We have frozen embryos from IVF and I can't see allowing them to be adopted, either. To me, if someone were to use them, that would be our child. As for surrogacy, that's a tough one. Pregnancy was extremely difficult for me and I can't imagine doing it again. However, if it meant the difference between my sister having a child or not, I would do it for her.

Before TTC, I went through the process of completing the egg donation process. My profile was placed on hold after I started TTC. The thought of having kids out there that are half me doesn't bother me.

Then I went through infertility... With failed IUIs and now a successful IVF.

I highly doubt my eggs alone are wanted.

Now after going through IVF and right now pregnant with twins, we do have to decide what will happen to our unused embryos. We have 5 left and I highly doubt I will have 5 more kids.
Right now, it says they will be donated to research but I know of some fellow IVFers who have used donated embryos to get pregnant and I kinda feel like I should give back. It was so heart breaking to go through IF. Though, DH would have to agree, too. We have some time to decide and see our kids grow.

As for surrogacy, even before having IF, I had trouble with being a surrogate. I think I was okay with doing it for a stranger and not so much for family. After being pregnant with HG and now with PPROM, I'm probably not a good candidate.

I would be open to donating my eggs, but only anonymously. I'm probably getting too old for that though.

I would consider surrogacy, but I would only do it for my brother or my best friend.

With my health history with Lucas, I would not donate eggs (and no one should want to take my eggs), prior to Lucas's health problems I would have been open to donation. I would be willing to be a surrogate for my sister and my cousin (and maybe other close family and friends) but I would insist on using their embryos.

I curious about all of those that say they couldn't donate eggs because of DNA attachment, and if those people would ever consider using donor eggs if they had any IF issues.

I would totally be a surrogate, because even though I'm terrible at getting pregnant, I rock at staying pregnant. I applied to be an egg donor, but I'm too old. Since I had already done an egg retrieval, I know that it's not really that terrible on me.

I would do anonymous egg donation, but I think it would be hard for me to see the baby if it was to someone I know (something I have no plans on doing)

If I was done having my own children I would be a surrogate for a family member or close friend who could not have a child. I actually offered this to my younger sister after her 3rd miscarriage, she has since had 2 healthy children. My hold back is that I have C-sections so if I have a third of my own, I get into "dangerous" territories.

@meganmp: I am curious about the same thing. That's so nice you applied to be an egg donor. I'm always surprised that someone would be considered too old. If you had your own successful pregnancy with your eggs, I would think your eggs would be ideal for donating. It blows my mind to use the eggs of a donor without a proven pregnancy (as my sister did with me, but I was free so...) And awesome for you that egg retrieval wasn't terrible for you. For me, it felt like death. I wouldn't do it again no matter how much the clinic offered me to do it (even putting aside that the compensation for what I considered "pain and suffering" is considered taxable income, ugh.) And now I'm having to do it for my own IVF. Funny how life works out. Hopefully I was just overly dramatic about it all when I did it 4+ years ago.

@LuLu Mom: I feel the same. I might do it anonymously, but I wouldn't want it to be someone I was close with. I think that would just be too hard. I'd consider surrogacy for a few very close friends, but not for just anyone. I don't enjoy pregnancy at all.

I would not be a surrogate because I am a very sick pregnant person. I just can't do this again. As far as eggs, I'd have no problem doing it but I'm too old and have poor egg quality.

We've discussed this at length because I have a gay BIL who wants kids so will need donated eggs and a surrogate. I would be fine with donating an egg to a close friend or family member only because I would view the child as a sort of half sibling to my kids and would want them to have a chance to know them.

I have HG pregnancies, so before my first I would have said I was game. After my first I still thought I might be able to do it as a last resort for my sister or BIL only. After my second HG pregnancy and trying to take care of a toddler during it, I am pretty sure no matter how much I wanted to, I couldn't even do it for my BIL or sister.

I have high risk pregnancies so wouldn't be a surrogate. But I think I would donate my eggs to a family member.

Oh, I'll add that I went through a retrieval for IVF and I had little to no pain. I am lucky to have no pain.

Prior to having IF and when I decided to go through egg donation application, what got me through the anticipation of pain was that there are mothers out there that have gone through cancer treatments and the pain they went through is probably nothing compared to the pain of a retrieval. I would take being sore for a few days for them.

I would do both, if I could.

Egg donation is pretty damn special. And if we end up down that road & got a successful pregnancy from it, I don't know how I would ever be able to express the gratitude for such a gift.

I had a beautiful pregnancy with G, and would be thrilled to give that gift to someone else - but seeing as my body doesn't seem to want to be pregnant again, surrogacy would definitely be off the table for us now. We're exhausted as it is trying for #2.

I actually worked with a woman who was a surrogate. She was awesome! When I was younger, surrogacy or egg donation were always things that I thought I would want to get into some day. Now being older, I just don't see it. I view the whole thing differently and just don't think I would do it, unfortunately.

I don't think I'd qualify to donate eggs, due to a blood clotting disorder that precludes me from doing any hormone treatments or therapies. Even if I could, I wouldn't. Like others, I wouldn't be able to separate myself from the idea that a child who was biologically mine was out there somewhere. It takes very special people to be egg or embryo donors, and I'm glad these people exist, but I'm OK not being one of them. I know I couldn't do it and I don't feel badly about that.

I would possibly consider being a surrogate using another couple's embryo, but I doubt that would arise as a possibility, because I wouldn't do it till after I'd successfully carried my own pregnancy(ies) and I haven't yet. By the time I do I think I'd be considered AMA and wouldn't qualify as a surrogate. I'd still consider it for my sister and my BFF though if they couldn't conceive and really wanted children.

The question is kind of moot for me at this point because I'm 37 and not sure I want to ever be pregnant again, and no one wants 37 year old eggs. But if I was younger I still think I couldn't do it. I hate about 95% of being pregnant, so I don't think I could've been a surrogate. It was really hard on my body and I had GD. And I think egg retrieval is really tough thing to go through so that a stranger can have a baby that will be related to you.

On the other hand, if at some point we need IVF and we had extra embryos I would probably be on board with donating them for adoption. For one, the process would already be done, it's not something extra to go through. And two, you can have involvement in finding parents for them. I'd be a little weirded out that other people are raising kids that are technically ours, but we can only have so many kids and this would give them a chance at a life.