So I think I finally figured out what has been bugging me lately...It isn't just the lack of social interaction with being home. I see plenty of people during the day. I think it is the constant stream of small talk. People in the grocery store asking the same questions over and over about lo or my pregnancy. Acquaintances that I meet up with at the park. LO is 20 months, but with nap schedules never lining up I feel like I haven't really gotten a chance to get to know other moms in a way that we can get past the small talk chit chat. When I was working I was constantly working with other teachers, problem solving, sharing stories, brainstorming lessons, etc. I am really missing that sense of working as a team, and I feel like the constant stream of small snippits of conversation is making me a little crazy.
When did this get better for you? Or does it? How do you meet friends as a SAHM that you can develop more real friendships with? I have met quite a few people I think I could eventually be close friends with, but it seems like friendships develop so much slower as a parent than they did pre-kids, because our time is so chaotic with watching the kids and hanging out at the same time, and the get togethers seem so infrequent because of differences in schedules. Plus, I also feel like I hardly ever see my "old" friends anymore, because by the time I get LO in bed I am so exhausted I crash myself. Does anyone else struggle like this?
I actually have found a couple "online" moms groups for my area and have connected with some other moms that way, but like was mentioned above, it is so hard to develop deeper friendships when there is a large group or you are constantly pulling your toddler out of the dangerous situations they get themselves into
I think there are definitely different types of people when it comes to social interactions. Some love the big group lots of acquaintances atmosphere, but I am not one of them. I have always been one to have 3-4 really close friends that I do everything with, and my co-workers and students filled in the gaps. But with co-workers you see them several hours a day...with the moms I have met, I see them maybe an hour a week, if that. So forming those relationships is a much more slow process.
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