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@pui: Exactly this.

@pui: totally agree.

Definitely money problems.

I have to disagree. Granted, we've never truly been "without" in our life. Our money troubles have consisted of not having enough for fun things or having to say no to trips, dinners out, etc. Things just always seem to workout when it comes to money. However, time will never heal the wound that was inflicted when I lost my dad.

For me, heartbreak was a whole lot harder to deal with. True, honest to God, I was absolutely in love with him and he broke my heart in 1000 pieces heartbreak. I'd rather eat popcorn for dinner (because it was in the house and I couldn't afford groceries) and not be able to pay my $20 electric bill, like when I was 22, than go through that ever again.

I agree with @pui,

That's not to say that heartbreak isn't awful in its own right, but you can't turn the electricity back on or put food on the table with time.

What?! Heartbreak is way worse than money troubles (which I have people, I have!)

You cannot purchase a healthy relationship however.

Money troubles. I've had both. The last 6 months have been full of heartbreak. I can handle the money troubles. I still don't know if I'll recover from the heartbreak.

@Greentea: I don't think anyone said that not having money troubles could somehow fix heartbreak. It's obvious to everyone here I'm sure that money cannot buy a relationship or bring a loved one back from the dead.

Also, when I replied to this, I guess I wasn't thinking in terms of if I'd rather have heartbreak or money troubles (especially since that is not what the OP asked). I think we all experience both of those at some point in our lives without choosing anything. Of course I'd rather be dirt poor than have my child die.

I was trying to answer the difficult question of what is "harder" to deal with (which is the question the OP asked... and can't really be answered lol). I guess for me heartbreak can (and kind of has to) be tackled by using just your mind. Money troubles require more than learning to accept your situation and doing your best to pick up the pieces and move on... mainly that it relies on things changing in the physical world to get through. You can't beat crippling debt or poverty with a better attitude alone.

It's no doubt that both are awful.

I think when you are younger heartbreak is worst because you don't really understand money issues (since your parents handle it for you), but when you are older with your own bills than money troubles is worst.

hurmm.. heartbreak.
@CupQuakeWalk: ditto!

I'd rather have money troubles.
If it's heartbreak over my DH I'd rather be poorer than poor than to ever ever experience that.

@Crisark: completely agree!

Heartbreak

Heartbreak is much harder to deal with.

Hmm, when I think of "heartbreak" I think relationship troubles. I think of something bad happening to a loved one more as "loss" though that is heartbreaking, too. But I hope everyone would say losing a loved one is harder than money troubles! As for relationship issues, I feel like that can be more subjective. Personally I think relationship heartbreak is harder. I've had my heart broken once -- like the stay in bed crying all day, don't feel like eating kind of broken. I'd never want to go through that again. But to be fair, I've never had money troubles to the point of not being able to afford food or shelter, so I don't really have that perspective.