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It's a new school, so she is adjusting. She was only recently potty trained - i find that there will always be some setbacks/regressions.

DD started preschool, and because her program shares the school with an elementary school, the bathrooms are further away. She has had two accidents so far, but they were good about it.

Could you find out when she's having the accidents? Is it after eating? nap time? Can't get to the bathroom in time? Is she not asking the teachers because she isn't comfortable with them yet? I think it's good to find out why/when it's happening and come up with a plan from there. Good luck!

E still has to wear a diaper at naptime at T's house. So.... =\.

I think as long as they take it off her and don't do it again, NBD. I think kids are good about separating stuff. Thankfully it's the weekend and YOU won't be putting any diapers on her! (PS i hid all of ours, so E doesn't see them anymore, which helped a ton. Now they're all T's...)

oh no! I don't remember what the OCPT book says about regressions. Maybe start rewarding her for when she stays dry all day?

@JoJoGirl: Worth a shot to try. We give the cookie right when we get home and always say it is cause you were dry all day.
If she isn't self initiating yet, how often are they taking her? Could you ask them to take her more? Especially right before they go outside to play and then right when they get back?

@JoJoGirl: When we first tried PT in June, R was doing good. Then after a 3-4 weeks she lost any and all interest. Would pee in her panties (at home), would cry when we said it was time to go to the potty (home and day care), would hold her pee to go in the pull up, etc. We backed off. She still sit on the potty at day care when they took her, but wouldn't go most of the time. Then two weeks before we planned to do boot camp, she started having an interest again. Then you know how well boot camp and since then has gone for her.
Maybe take a breathier, go to pull ups. Then try again in a couple months. I know it sucks.

@JoJoGirl: there's a part in OCPT about learning vs. behavior and in our case, we had a behavior component where LO would just pee because he needed to but didn't want to stop what he was doing to go potty and if we prompted, he'd refuse. So we started threatening to take Elmo away.

We trained over Labor Day and still prompt but LO mostly says no and we remind him that he needs to keep his shorts dry or Elmo goes bye-bye. He will eventually go but generally speaking, a prompt gets a a big fat no from him.

We also toe the line with bribes... If we're going to let him watch tv anyway or give him a Popsicle anyway, and it's been awhile since he peed, we'll prompt and let him know he's getting a Popsicle after.

Just wanted to throw out a couple things that have worked for us. Hang in there, she'll get it!

@JoJoGirl: yeah I think in the book she talks about putting Thomas the train on top of the refrigerator as a punishment. It sounds mean, but it was the light bulb for my LO. He needed that extra motivation.

Have you thought about training pants as a compromise if preschool is being pushy about it? Or even to take a little pressure off your LO?

I definitely wouldn't threaten to take things away from her if she doesn't use the potty. It's just going to create an even more negative association.

Why is your husband so against going back to pull ups for a little while? We had a big regression and went back to pull ups because LO just wasn't ready. When she was ready, she was totally trained in 4 days and barely ever had an accident again. But she did it on her own terms, with no "method" pushed by us. Multiple accidents every day combined with how agitated your daughter seems to be getting doesn't sound worth it to me.

@blackbird: yeah it was effective for us and created no negative associations. I wasn't willing to go back to diapers because I knew he could do it and I felt like going back would be upsetting to my LO.

@JoJoGirl: in case you need different training pants, just wanted to drop this link off for you:

http://www.onestepahead.com/Bath-and-Potty/Potty-Training/The-Smarter-Potty-Training-Pants.pro?fpi=109864&catCd=2W&prefixCode=2W

@JoJoGirl: I fell into the trap of over prompting during training, which pissed my LO off to no end so maybe try a few different things, including backing off a little. Hugs! PT is rough.

We went through some regressions (pooping in her pants EVERY DAY) and honestly, the best thing you can do is show no frustration/anger when she does have an accident. The one thing i learned is that negative associations can make it so much worse. We put her back in pullups and gently told her that underwear is for big kids and big kids make sure to tell us when they have to go. I told her that if she doesn't have any accidents for a couple of days then we will go back to underwear.

I'm curious - if she isn't at the point of telling you she has to go, then how do you (or her teachers) know when she has to go? She is still young at 2 years old, and their bladder muscles aren't fully developed yet - that may explain why she's leaking.

Once i decided she was ready to be back in underwear, i made a chart and said she gets a star every time she tells me she poops. When she gets 2 stars, she can watch 1 tv show and if she gets 10 stars then i'll take her out for ice cream/hot chocolate. That really made a world of a difference. Once she was consistently telling us (3 months), i stopped the chart and told her that it's her job as a big girl to tell us.

Sorry for the novel!