Title should read:
Help me Help my husband UNDERSTAND.. why it's not ok for him to have a massage scheduled for Saturday (2 hrs) and to also play golf on Sunday (4+hrs).

He just can't understand why I told him he can do one of those things.

"they aren't related so why are you acting like they are"

anybody?? anybody see where I am coming from here???

ETA: we have a 4 mos old and a 3.5 yr old