So I just booked an airbnb for a family weekend and I've never done it before. I'm wondering specifically about a few things.

1. how much involvement does the "host" have when you are actually there? To be honest I'd prefer to never have to see or small talk/chit chat with anyone... terrible I know.... but do they tend to pop in or be around??

2. when it comes to the # of persons.... I may have fudged a little. We will have 3 adults and 8 kids (one being a toddler and one being under 5). The place said it sleeps 9.... should I pick a different place bc we will technically have 11??? or is this ok??? I figure the toddler will sleep in a PNP that I will bring and the 5 yo will share bed with me (the two youngest kids just happen to both be mine).

3. do I need to plan to leave a thank you "gift" or something when we leave?