Back story:
In October, my hubby's best friend died unexpectedly. He was 38, running a somewhat successful business, leaving behind his fiance, her two teenage boys, and their 3 year old daughter.

It hit my husband really hard. He's been in a depression ever since. On top of that, some major issues with his dad (us not speaking with him anymore because he's a piece of work, to put it kindly), I don't know what I can do to help get him out of his funk.

Nicer weather is definitely helping. I wanted to plan something for his 40th birthday (next year) and he told me last night he doesn't want me to because his friend won't be there. I completely respect that. However, the man won't go talk to a therapist or anyone else, he never goes out with friends anymore (though talks to them all daily), and I want to do something to help raise his spirits.

Has anyone dealt with their partner being in a bad place, and not wanting to get help? Any ideas of what I can do?

I'm feeling pretty lost I've always been in a mild depression/anxiety but I take something to help me cope. My son also helps me keep going, because he's my world. I wasn't sure where else to ask. I can't ask his mother anything, and I don't want to say anything to his friends.