We are hosting a holiday party for all our new friends. Party starts at 5pm and is for 20 adults and 10 toddlers. Thinking about a big charcuterie, cheese, and fruit plates and a few warm appetizers.

What are some good small "one bite" appetizer ideas? Also, we don't drink. I'm happy to provide some alcohol but hate spending a bunch of money on booze that we don't even drink. Is it totally rude to make it BYOB? If yes, how much alcohol or what kind do we need? I'm hoping since everyone is bringing their kids we can count on them not drinking too much