One of my closest friends has just miscarried, again. 3 months ago she miscarried with 11 week old twins. Three days ago she miscarried again at 6 weeks. I feel so much pain thinking of what she and her husband are going through.

The first time she miscarried I was 9 months pregnant and her means of coping was to spend a lot of time with me preparing for the birth of my son. I didn't understand it but she insisted that being close to me experiencing pregnancy helped. We talked through feelings and I encouraged her to try again and she did. Now she has suffered a second loss and is not as expressive as the first time, which is completely understandable. I need to help her though. I am so sorry she is going through this again, and in such a short space of time. And she is so loving towards my 2 mnth old son that it hurts... I just want to see her experiencing the joy of being a mother!

I'm posting here because I really would like to be sensitive toward her, without smothering her. Please, can anyone offer some advice as to how I can help her... should I encourage her to talk? just listen? Is there something I can give to her? Something I can say? Something I definitely should not say? Something I can do? I know this must be terribly difficult and I don't want to make it harder on her in any way, I just really want to help her go through this.

Any suggestions would be appreciated! Thanks.