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I had an idea of the "ideal" spacing I wanted, so that kind of made the decision for me! Also, I wanted some time between nursing and getting pregnant again, so I had to wait til I stopped BFing.

A lot of things factored in. My age being a huge part because I'm 37 now. I read that at least a year, preferably 2 is healthiest for your body and baby especially for c section but even without , and I wanted our kids to be able to be buddies but still have their own special time. My son was 16 months when we started trying and even though it was hard at the time I am so glad it took 7 months because I love the 2.5 year spacing.

If I were younger we probably would have waited at least till my son was 2 or 2.5

It just felt like time to add another. I can't really put my finger on what changed, but we were just ready one day.
DDs are two years apart.

We had always planned a 2-3 year age gap--DH was ready for a second when LO was like 3 months, I wanted to wait until closer to 3 years--we compromised and started trying a few months after LO turned 1.

Mentally, I'm still not ready! But I think even when people feel ready, they aren't totally ready. Financially we're good to go, and we are both 34 now, so we know we don't have forever.

We didn't, I knew I wanted them close though!

Not sure. I just wanted another baby lol I'm pretty scared actually but we decided to NTNP and I left it up to God and we'll be due with our second in April!

Hah. We went into it saying 2 years apart. Realized "Oh sh*t. That means getting pregnant this July!" and decided 3 years apart was good too. However we weren't all that strict about preventing and our boys are set to be 2 years and 3 months apart. I think it will be a good sibling spacing but I'm a little sad I didn't get to CRAVE having a baby again since we're planning on just two. I really wanted to WANT to be pregnant, give birth and nurse like I did with LO1. That hasn't happened - I still remember too much - but that's ok. It will still be good.

@caitlanc: you said it perfectly. I'm very over pregnancy and nursing. I feel bad for our youngest because of that I love the hell out of him, but I am not as hung up on all the details and having everything perfect like last time. It is a total blast now that they are interacting (3 years and 10 months). I'm really looking forward to seeing their relationship grow!

I knew I wanted them 2-2.5 years apart. We started NTNP when LO was 11 months (after my first pp period) and I got pregnant that cycle. They'll be about 20.5 months apart. It took us over a year of actively TTC to get our first, so I was prepared for that, but it was much, much shorter the second time around. Coincidentally, the same month I got pregnant, we also bought a house and I got new job, so even though it happened a bit sooner than expected, everything fell into place.

I guess I took wanting two kids for granted in my head. (I never questioned or considered one and done.) And I'm already old. So two kids 19.5 months apart it is. If we were younger, I'd have probably waited for a 2 or 3 year age gap.

We both wanted 2 under 2 with the possibility for more children left open for discussion. We just let things happen, we weren't actively trying but not preventing either.

We always wanted 2, and hoped to have them less than 3 years apart. Age was also not really on our side at 36. I had baby fever for awhile before I was ready, and DH was ready before me. Financially we were fine, but my DH's health and our lack of family in the area held me back. I wasn't sure if I could handle two, or even handle another difficult pregnancy, esp. if my husband's health got worse. What changed my mind, I think, was our LO sleeping through the night, my husband doing well, and a promise I made to myself that I'd let myself take anti-nausea medicine if I needed to, I'd supplement with formula if my supply was low again, and we'd splurge on a housekeeper for awhile if we needed it. Around the time I was getting to this place, DH convinced me to skip using protection, just once. I didn't get pregnant (I sort of knew the timing wasn't right), but when AF was a day or two late, I found myself really hoping she wouldn't show. That sorted cemented for me that I was ready to try. We thought it might take awhile, but I got pregnant right away. Fortunately, I felt ready.

Never had time to decide. Got a recalled batch of the pill. Didn't know it was recalled til after I found that I was KU. Poor SO had morning sickness for me the morning of graduation! Lol. Having my two 17 months apart wasn't all that bad. I kinda wished Id had a little longer to thoroughly enjoy S before H arrived.

Several things:
- I wanted a decent gap so I wouldn't have two "babies" at the one time
- I didn't want to give up or be unable to breastfeed while Miss A was still a baby.
- I really started to enjoy Miss A at around 12-15 months and I didn't want to compromise that by being pregnant
- On a practical level we had moved in early 2014 and were living in a tiny military house so we needed to be living in a place that could house a second child.
- It took me awhile to get over the first few months of parenthood so I really wasn't ready to think about doing it again until Miss A was a year old.

We knew we wanted kids less than 2 years apart, with 18 months being the closest we would want them together. We pulled the goalie when DD1 was 10 months old and two weeks later we had our BFP. DD1 was also the world's easiest baby so we weren't worried about having two under two.

@Danizaur: I am wavering on this decision as well. Some days I am all in and good to go. Others I am perfectly fine with how it is and a little terrified. I am still not sure what the right thing to do is.

We wanted roughly a 2 year gap but not so close that they might share birthdays so we set a time to start trying and got pregnant the first cycle... again. Much to DH's dismay as he wanted to try for a long time hahaha. They will be 2 years, 6 weeks (ish) apart. I had expected a slightly larger gap because I figured it would take us a bit longer to conceive.

I knew the timeframe I wanted my kids ideally to be apart (2 1/2-3 years) and I really wanted a spring baby. So the decision came easy to us. I did push it back one month because "I wasn't ready" but haha I moved on from that very quickly. When I get baby fever I get it, and it quickly rubs off on DH, so luckily we have always been on the same page.

@My Only Sunshine: exact same for me! I just want to get the preggo nausea/early infant days over with.

Dh and I both have older siblings with more than 2 kids and they have all said parenting is so easy once the youngest is 4 or so.....so dang, I can't wait till that stage, haha