When you first started trying to conceive- what was your approach?
Crazy Hopeful? Cautiously Optimistic? Zen?
And do you think it could possibly impact the results of a cycle?
Did your approach change as your journey progressed?
And how do you deal with disappointment? Does the start of a new cycle feel like a new beginning that opens the door to the opportunity to be hopeful?
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pomegranate / 3105 posts
I was one of those girls who thought I would be like my friends where my DH would look at me and I'd be KU.
Oh how quickly dreams go out the window.
bananas / 9899 posts
I was very, very excited, but I had realistic expectations. I had done some reading and I realized that getting pregnant can take months and months... but I was optimistic that it wouldn't take longer than 6 months (this was right after I had gone off BCP, before my cycles went in to their irregular "normal").
grapefruit / 4028 posts
I assumed that it would happen in a realistic amount of time, even if I had to wait a little bit. Of course, my super hopeful brain counted 4 months as being "waiting."
We had already been talking about it and NTNP for a good 7 months before we started actively TTC.
After that, I started to get more anxious about it and desperate for a family. Every new month was met with more focus and symptom spotting during the TWW, followed by a heavier and heavier sense of disappointment when AF started.
It was really my MC that set me over the edge and made me despair, though. I've no idea how to remain hopeful. Its been a struggle lately.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
I was so optimistic...confident...cocky? You know, for years I'd had it drilled I had unprotected sex even once without protection that I'd get KU (my school pushed abstinence only and my parents never talked about sex at all). So when we decided to start trying, I just assumed it would be as easy as not taking my pill, and then BAM!Baby. Lmao!
I learned really, really quickly that it's not usually that easy 
pomegranate / 3809 posts
Optimistic that it would at least happen with in a few month. I never would have guess I'd be here 16 months later and still waiting for that BFP.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I was so excited! And then when we started having trouble I was crushed. I'm in the realistic stage now.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
I'm on a countdown. I know if we don't get pregnant within a year or 12 Cycles we are deemed to have fertility issues. So I look at is as 12 attempts before we see the doctor. I am hopeful I will great pregnant, but will be shocked/stunned/surprised when I do.
grapefruit / 4770 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I like your approach & hope you do get a bfp soon!
I went into it having spent way too much time on the internet, so immediately worrying that something is going to be wrong. I think the very first month I felt hopeful that first tww, but at the moment I'm pretty nonchalant. My ex-best friend was sooo cocky she'd be KU fairly quickly since her mom marked on a calendar one night to have sex and bam got pregnant with both her and her sister. The same damn thing happened for her! It's hard not to want to compare myself to that, since we are the same age. Of course, there are many different factors.
persimmon / 1167 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We're kind of in the same boat. DH and I know that we have issues. I don't have many eggs- so I'm crazy hopeful, but will also be shocked and absolutely overjoyed if we get pregnant within a reasonable amount of time.
kiwi / 742 posts
I thought it would take time, but I was excited, I'm still excited now even after 13 months!
honeydew / 7968 posts
Very excited! We were ntnp, but I really thought we'd get pregnant within a year.
nectarine / 2932 posts
I was very cautious straight from the beginning. I had followed many bees TTC journeys on WB - lots of quick positives, but lots and lots of longer ones also. I knew it could take a while. Like @Crystal: said, I hoped it would take like 3 or 4 months, and I was very disappointed when each month passed..it ended up taking 7 (which I realize is NOTHING).
honeydew / 7968 posts
@HolisticMama: Over 3 years. Went thru fertility channels. And now, got my twins, and on to my third without fertility treatments! It's now 6 years or so since we started.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I just got off BCP so I was going to wing this month and start in Feb. We were pretty non-chalant about it, and even thought we would NTNP till March. But after reading the wealth of information here, I got so excited and worked up to TTC right away when I realize there is so much that goes into it!
grapefruit / 4028 posts
@Littlebit: how far along are you now? Congrats on the BFP!
I know I saynthis a lot, but it's amazing how long a month can feel when you are TTC.
cherry / 132 posts
We are literally just starting our TTC journey, and i'm so glad i found Hellobee in my pre-TTC stage. Having read about the journeys other bees have had has opened my eyes to how hard it can be, and it's made me a bit more realistic about how long it can take get pregnant. So i guess i'm now approaching it all with cautious optimism 
persimmon / 1273 posts
We were excited but a little cautious. Before we started trying, I had talked to a number of people who said something like, "I didn't expect to get pregnant the first month but then I did" so I DID expect to get pregnant right away. We didn't have to try for long and were able to time the baby as I'd hoped, so I can't complain, but I still found the process very stressful.
persimmon / 1167 posts
@TheReelDeal: I ditto @LovelyPlum.
I love the idea of being able to always be excited. Simply the chance to create life is pretty powerful.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
@dc yoga bee: Some women are just ferrtile. My guy friend described something similar about his wife. She was less than three months off BCP and got pregnant.
@HolisticMama: What prompted you to seek help before trying? A few years ago my husband Googled in for about his sperms based on a taste complaint I had. He decided he has super sperms and a sperms bank would be all too eager to get their hands on his stuff. If we ever find out he is a cause of infertility his fragile, big ego will really be hurt.
persimmon / 1167 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I had a dermoid cyst removed from my ovary few years ago and I immediately had hormone issues. I wanted to see what my hormones were doing, but the RE thought it was silly just to test hormones and wanted to do the whole shebang- do we did blood testing, SA, HSG, and ultrasounds. And I had already maxed out my deductibles, so it was good.
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