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Get your hair done. Even a simple cut or home color.
You don't want to buy new clothes if you're planning on dieting/losing weight but even a new coat or a sweater might make you feel better.
I have zero time for the gym so I do a 20 minute video. I hate every second of it but it makes me feel better and I noticed a difference after barely a week when I started.
I think it's totally normal to feel this way. (((((Hugs))))) do something nice for yourself, you deserve it.

I could of written this post, word for word! I have been so unhappy in my body it's crazy and it was making me so negative. So I spent money I shouldn't of on a hair cut, facial, mani, pedi and I bought some new tops. Now I don't feel I look quite as bad and am more motivated to get back on my diet and lose the baby weight. I plan to keep these things up too, treat myself to one thing every month or so.

It's so important not to forget yourself, misery leads to misery and the more unhappy about your weight you are the bigger you will get. It's the why bother syndrome! Keep doing your makeup, let DH look after LO and do your own nails, facials, hair and let yourself feel good about yourself.

I found a place near me that is a school for cosmetology students and they have greatly reduced rates there. They are my go to when I need a pick me up since it fits in my budget a bit better.

What about doing a few spa things at home? A mask for your face, a pedicure and a scrub while drinking some wine and listening to music? Usually thebeautydepartment.com has some recipes for home treatments and fun tips.

I also could have written this. I have no advice. I went and got my hair done, but i did quite a drastic change and instead of feeling awesome I just feel self conscious. I'm the heaviest I've ever been and like you, I lost all baby weight after birth. However I've been eating like shit and not drinking enough water. I've been dealing with minor breastfeeding issues like thrush and clogged ducts and today my boobs feel totally empty and I'm so upset about it. Every time I see someone they ask if baby kept me up all night because of the bags under my eyes. I feel disgusting.

I'm so sorry you are feeling the same way. It's not fair. I wish I could be more help...

Eta: I also am clearly super whiny about it and I think of myself as a super positive person and being a whiny bitch is completely depressing.

@Cherrybee: just a thought, but do you think you'd feel better if you had more routine and organisation in your life? For me I try to do some sort of housework every day (Monday groceries, Tuesday baby laundry, Wednesday adult laundry, Thursday random housework, Friday baby laundry, Saturday adult laundry, Sunday towels and vacuuming). Having a schedule keeps me from feeling swamped and ensures I don't run out of underwear!

I also have a bit of a daily routine, when A was a newborn the FIRST thing I did when she went down for her first nap was have a shower, it just made me feel soooo much better! If she wouldn't sleep I could sometimes get her to lie on her playmat for five or ten minutes which was just enough time to shower and dress.

As for the Church Hall, I can't speak for the British ones but the Church hall where A and I go for music isn't stinky at all I say get yourself to the group and if you don't like it you don't have to go back but at least you gave it a shot!

@.twist.: hugs to you to Mama!

@Cherrybee: I should say...I feel the same way. Haven't had a hair cut since I was 4 months pregnant (at 10 weeks postpartum now), and I'm still 20 lbs up from my prepregnancy weight, and. Can't fit in any of my clothes so am still wearing my maternity clothes. My boobs are huge National Geographic worthy monsters. And I exhausted all the time.

As if all of that isn't enough, I have 3 (!) styes on my left eye all at once, after never having one my entire life. Haven't felt this unattractive and gross ever. And it sucks.

You gotta take care of yourself! Start small! Get your hair done, meal plan, and do some fitness videos. The endorphins will help you feel happier! Throw the junk out. You aren't shafting your husband with the baby-he needs to spend time with your LO alone and just three nights away a week will help immensely. It hard but you just have to make yourself make changes. Commit for a few weeks. If it doesn't have a positive influence in your life, ditch it for something else

@Bookish: @Kemma: @Cherrybee: thanks ladies. *hugssss*

And yep, totally changed my hair. We went on a date tonight and I had my make up done so I took a pic. Lol. It perked me up a bit to actually DO my hair and make up.

PS. @Cherrybee: get your hair done, you rock the platinum blonde!

@Bookish: I think black would look super classy on you. I miss my black hair immensely!

@Cherrybee: yep, fringe is gone. It's still kind of there but I generally pin it back. Colour is totally different too! 10 years of black gone, now it's a lovely shade of red.

You and DH need to plan a date night. Even if it's a picnic in the park or going to a friends for an hour for one drink. Just get you two out of the house. Our date last night was just to a friends who had a birthday. It gave me a reason to get dolled up, it felt really good.

@.twist.: I went out for dinner with my coffee group in June and was excited to just be wearing a normal bra!!