Hellobee Boards

She is 3 and we have done it the same way since she was one. I warn her of her behavior. I repeat warning and state consequence if it repeats. I say time out, 1 minute and put her in her room on her bed. I either have to hold her hand to walk her in or pick her up and place her there. Sometimes I used to close the door but now she just stays. I she were to leave I would just look at her and say time out and look away. She always feels sad. Sometimes she says I'm sorry again and again. So after the minute I hug her and ask her Do you know why you had timeout? And then I tell her the rule again. All this is done very calmly as if by routine. Never emotional. Just consistent. We give timeout if it is a repeated unsafe or aggressive behavior. I give timeouts maybe once a month, if that, for the past year.

We've been doing time out since maybe since her second birthday. She's almost 2.5 now

She gets one warning -- if you don't stop doing ____ you will be put in time out.
If she continues, she gets time out for one minute. She sits on the couch.

We used to sit with her, and calmly tell her what time the clock said and when she was allowed to get down. Now she knows not to get down off the couch, and one of us will tell her "ok, time is up! Thank you for sitting so nicely. You can get down now."

At about 18 months we would tell him time out (after a warning). We would ignore him for a moment (approximately 1 minute per age). Then we return, explain what happened "you couldn't keep your feet on the ground. We need to keep our feet on the ground". We ask for a confirmation "say yes mommy" and then I love you and hugs.

When we are out and about we modify it slightly. For instance yesterday we were in line for a disneyland ride and he kept climbing on the fences. I took him out of line (we were near the front). Then he had to choose which one ride we got to do because we couldn't do both (he is 3 now).