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I use the can't understand what you're saying to get my boys to speak without whining. My 5.5 y.o. whines more than his little brother. He doesn't whine as much, yet (??) at 2.5. If it's constant whining to get attention I just ignore.

I agree with PPs - I always say, "I can't understand you when you're whining, please ask me in your regular voice", and I don't ever give in to a request while they are doing it.

I'm very blunt with LO - I straight up tell her "you do not get what you want when you whine". When she starts the whining now I will ask her: "E, do you get what you want when you whine?" and she will tell me no.

The hardest part is sticking to that "threat"/rule. If you tell your LO they don't get what they want when they whine but then give in....you've lost the battle.

When she whines I try to redirect her into using her words to ask me what she wants or tell me how she is feeling.

Oh, i feel you. I got stuck in traffic bringing LO home tonight and she whined /fake cried in the back of the car for an hour. Ugh.

I usually just say, Can you ask nicely please, and he will repeat what he wants in a normal voice. If he still can't have it then it at least usually leads to crying rather than whining, which is preferable sometimes!

My Lo turns 2 on Saturday and I don't think she grasps the "say it nicely" just yet. I usually do the happiest toddler on the block method and repeat what she's trying to say. So if she wants me to read I say "read! Read! You want to read!" Something like that and it usually stops. If I acknowledge what she's saying or what she's feeling then it usually stops. (I think a couple ppl have blogged abt this method) But if she's tired or hungry all bets are off I usually just try to tune it out even tho it's like nails on a chalkboard!!

Eta once she stops whining I ask her to say please read or whatever it is that she wants