Just curious! Do you usually initiate the conversation to make plans? Do your ILs? Does your SO usually deal with his/her family to make plans for you?
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begrudgingly. haha.. jk!..
we live next door so it just kind of happens. or they invite us to things. we never have events here (and they don't celebrate birthdays or holidays anyway) cause we share a backyard.
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I call or text!
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DH usually calls or MIL will call us.
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Begrudgingly? lol
I usually avoid them until DH forces me to hang out with them.
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DH usually takes care of it. It's infrequent.....also because DH takes care of it. lol
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If it's about a holiday or family event, the ILs call us. If it's a weekend plan or watching the kids while DH and I do something, hubs calls them. If it's about a doctors appointment or same-day, I call my MIL.
I usually try to spend as little time talking/with my ILs as possible. Especially my FIL since he invites himself over a lot. If he's dropping hubs off for whatever reason, he comes inside and 'helps out' which usually results in me being PO'ed that he's interrupting family time.
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DH does it. They live four hours away, so it's never just a quick thing.
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Its really tough to get them to come to visit us. They come once a year tops and we have to kinda force them into it. Otherwise we are visiting for the holidays and we'll randomly visit like one other time
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DH texts w/ his two siblings to make plans usually.
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I make plans with one SIL pretty regularly. We are really close and talk/text several times a week.
My husband makes plans with the rest of his family.
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We both handle it equally.
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Well they live 4 hours away, so usually we just have to go (holidays) or we kind of talk and say we need to suck it up and go visit.
I have to tell DH to call his Dad all the time. I text SMIL all the time otherwise they wouldn't see pictures of R.
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Usually DH makes the plans with them. They live 12 hours away and refuse to fly, so we usually only see them if we travel there. They will visit if we have a baby
If it's a big family trip, SIL and I make all of the arrangements.
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They live across the country, so it doesn't happen often! MIL will contact DH or me-- more often me since I actually get back to her. And it's usually planning way in advance since it involves a flight. FIL deals only with DH and I just go along with whatever they plan.
BIL lives around the corner and he and DH will usually talk if he wants to come over or something, but he will also call or text me if he just wants to stop by. And DH's grandmother lives not too far away and DH calls her to make plans.
So, I guess I just never do the initiating.
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hubs deals with it. We try to avoid his mom/brothers as they're all pretty crazy. His dad comes over every Sunday. His family will text him, he doesn't initiate it.
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DH handles it normally. Mil babysits on Mondays and we see them most weekends.
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If it's a holiday, we discuss it first. Then, DH makes arrangements with them, flights, etc. I have DH deal with his parents and visits.
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If they're coming into town, BIL or MIL will call the hubby and coordinate something. If we're going to visit them, DH calls his mommy and lets her know.
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DH handles that. I don't even have my FIL's cell number. I feel like that's weird. Though, I've never had the need to call him myself .
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That's strictly DH's job, I rarely communicate with them directly (their English isn't very good). It's pretty much a given that we spend part of Saturday with them, whether it be lunch + afternoon outing (dread this cuz it can drag on), or dinner.
From June - October, I'm busy working weddings almost every Saturday (I'm a wedding planner), so that's my free pass.
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I call my mil or she calls me.
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I'll call, text or bring it up in person. We have a very natural, smooth relationship. Plus, I have the type of husband who is too busy to keep up with social scheduling, so I do that and he kind of just follows along in that area of our life (yep- even with his own parents).
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I don't. Lol
they live far away so if we're going to visit, dh plans it out and talks to his family.
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I make the plans. Love my ILs
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I either email MIL throughout the week, or text MIL and SIL. If it involves a phone call I typically make DH call. I really hate talking on the phone, so I just refuse to do that one.
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@Adira: uh oh, I sense another IL drama is brewing
I tell Dh what I want the plans to be and he communicates them.
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I either text or call MIL. Both of us initiate. Sometimes DH will call but only when I absolutely make him. I get along with my ILs so I don't really mind doing it! I know that LO absolutely adores spending time with them so I feel like it's important to maintain that relationship!
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Dh handles it.
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I usually call or text MIL. I shouldn't bother texting her though because she reads the text and calls me back
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DH handles the arrangements and asks me schedule-related questions. I never do the contacting unless it is girls only-like a shower or something.
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They're out of state so it's not very often. But when we do get together, DH talks to them.
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My husband usually makes the plans if it's for something with the family. If my MIL wants to come see M during the week, she'll initiate the convo with me.
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@illumina: haha, no, no drama!! I'm planning on making some plans with my ILs this summer, and I was just curious what other people do! Usually it's my ILs that are inviting us over, but I'll probably be inviting myself over a bunch since they live on the water and I want to take Xander swimming, haha!
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I usually make DH deal with it, but sometimes I am the one who exchanges emails and/or texts with them.
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I think MIL calls/texts more, but I've never been shy about initiating a visit to their house or out to dinner or something.
If it's a big family trip, SIL and I make all of the arrangements.
they live far away so if we're going to visit, dh plans it out and talks to his family.
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