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We eat outside a lot because we like to bring our dog with us, so we run into this quite often. We've left restaurants when someone comes and sits down and starts smoking. Personally, I think it's so rude when there's people around you, especially a baby. I mean really can't you walk a couple of feet away at least? But I know it's not against any laws and they're technically not doing anything wrong, so I just get up and get my LO out of there.

@artbee: Completely agree!!! As a smoker (that is trying to quit!) If I ever see any babies, children, teenagers, adults, anyone! I always distance myself. I think it's rude not to. I would be the person that looks like the creeper because I park way at the end of a parking lot to smoke before I go into a store because I don't want other people by it

Um, I don't have a LO, but I would TOTALLY say, "Excuse me, but do you mind not smoking so close to my baby? Thank you!" I have had to bite my tongue not to say it on behalf of other people's babies before!!!

The only time I'd care is if the setup means that we can't get LO out of the direct "line of smoke". If we're outside and someone is smoking at a table next to us but the smoke isn't really coming our way, I'd probably position LO to be furthest away from it, but I wouldn't ask to switch tables unless it was really getting all up in LO's face.
We have good data on the negative effects of secondhand smoke, but I think that's only for at least semi-regular exposure... I don't know of any good data on how this kind of intermittent, non-concentrated exposure would affect kids who don't have comorbidities or other conditions that would make it more of a problem.

I live in NY too, and Ive actually witnessed a woman ask someone not to smoke near her baby, and the smoker replied "how about you dont have your baby near my cigarette?" I kind of giggled, but I did think the mom was a little out of line. They were outside on the sidewalk, and the smoker was there first. The mom walked by with a stroller and made a comment.

Anyways, Im with what @MrsBrewer: does.

It's not very common around here, but even being pregnant I steer clear of the smell. I'm a former smoker (gross I know) & I just wish people respected it a little better. We went to eat on Friday night and there was 2 guys smoking right in the doorway of the restaurant, very rude when there was plenty of room to be off to the side.

I'm even a former smoker and it really, really bugs me now. I think walking past someone doing it and someone coming and standing next to me and doing it is different though. If it was just a person I was walking past, I'd just walk faster.

I'll do something passive aggressive like wave my hand in the air or say to my husband "Do you smell smoke? Who's smoking?" If that doesnt' work and I know they heard me/saw me, i would ask them if they wouldn't mind smoking elsewhere because we have kids or I would just get up and move seats/tables.