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Great ideas! Gretchen Rubin calls these "proofs of love," in one of her books, and she tries to be intentional about expressing her love to her husband as part of her daily habits.

It sounds kind of lame, but we made a schedule for each night of the work week with things we'd like to do together when he kids are in bed. We don't follow it religiously, but it helps us stay out of the, "What do you want to do?" quagmire. Monday is game night, Tuesday is movie night, Wednesday is audiobook night, Thursday is crafts night (we each work on our own hobby), Friday is massage night.

I try to notice things he hates to do (like going grocery shopping) and make sure I take on those responsibilities. I make his lunches and write him notes sometimes. I send him sexts. He thrives on the outdoors, so I try to plan family hikes on weekends. I bake him brownies for no reason. I'd like to hear other people's ideas!

Sex? 🤣 But my DH's love language is physical touch.

@DesertDreams88: bake his favorite goodies, cook his favorite meals once every two weeks.

Following as well! We can get it a rut with the after-kid is asleep evening routine and even weekends too. I love these ideas!

I try to make sure he has space for his hobbies. We've both had to give up a lot with two kids and two daycare payments, so I go out of my way to be accommodating when he needs time to write or to train for a bike race. If there's a race that is far away, I usually stay home with the kids so he can really enjoy the experience, get a good night of sleep, etc.

You covered a lot of things we do, but something else cute that we do is send each other songs that remind us of each other or are special to us or have a message we want the other to hear. Either lyrics or in Spotify you can send the actual song.
Also, not sure if you’re religious, but I send my husband bible verses that either relate to us/marriage OR I know will help him through something he’s dealing with. He doesn’t do it for me (he’s not as devout) but he appreciates when I send them. I subscribe to a couple of IG accounts that provide daily inspiration/verses and I either screenshot or send a link.

I have a couple friend who also spent a week texting each other something they appreciate about the other each day. But I guess that’s not one person vs both.

Oh and if quality time is his love language, maybe make sure that once a week or however often you can manage (I know you have a toddler and a newborn like me) you either get all household stuff done before he’s home or let it go for a night to guarantee him some time.

DH loves when I sneak something special into his lunch - chocolate, or an extra creative sandwich... he knows I hate making lunch and this is a big effort for me

He also loves when we spend time together just the two of us, but sadly we only get to do this once or twice a year. I'm going to have to beg my parents for a couple date nights this summer, before we have even more kids and even less time for ourselves.

And of course lots of hugs

We plan meals together so he always has input and I cook foods he wants/is craving. He’s been extra helpful around the kitchen lately.

I get him random clothes- boxers, shorts, button ups, his favorite socks- whatever I just leave them on his desk 1x a month. He does not shop for himself and ask me to pick up what he needs- but I like suprising him. I’ll also grab small things like a book or candy occasionally.

When he travels I drop notes in his suitcase. When it a 4+ night trip I’ll priority mail a note to his hotel.

I always try to have our side entrance (the kitchen) clean when he comes home. I know he appreciates it and feels more relaxed.

I encourage him to do things with friends like golf. This is hard for me because of his demanding schedule but if it’s a freeing I really like them I may even set up a T time.

I don’t do anything super sappy but I post nice things about him when he’s in a photo that I post on social media.