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Mine will be 15 months apart and I'm nervous. My mom had 3 kids in 29 months....she keeps telling me that in the beginning it'll be hard, but it gets easier and easier. Ill find out in 6ish weeks how its going to be....I'm expecting the beginning to be horrible trying to adjust

@Springtime: I missed a BFP?!?? Congrats!!!

I'm only 7.5 weeks into being a mom to two under 2 and it isn't as difficult as I expected. Sure, I get frazzled sometimes but I'm more efficient about baby care with the newborn so I am able give lots of attention to my LO. I do have my toddler in daycare part time so that helps...also your son is a good walker unlike my daughter!

You will do great! When is your gender scan?!??

@Springtime: I can't wait!!!!!

The first few weeks were hard... Frequent feedings, sleep deprivation, constant diaper changes! My LO is only 16 months older but I forgot about all of that stuff!

@sarbear: It does sound scarier but on the flip side, you also sound like Super Woman for managing it all.

@Springtime: The first six weeks are the hardest with any newborn but it's also an adjustment period for your other LO. There's this new baby on the scene eating up a lot of mom and dad's energy. It's really hard - but really important - not to spend all your time taking care of the newborn. No matter how old your LO is, he/she will still need your care and attention too.

The good news is having them so close together? You remember. You're quicker to pick up the 'Okay, here's what works, here's what doesn't work'. You'll unintentionally spend a lot of time comparing your LOs just because what worked for one might no work for the other. But then you might be surprised when something does work for both.

The only regret I have is that we were moving into a house we'd closed on just days before Em was born. That I had to stress my toddler out further by not only bringing a new baby into the mix but also changing his entire environment. It was for the best, for everyone, but it was still something I wish we could have done sooner for his sake. Less piled in on him.

As for advice? Take help where you can get it. I'm too stubborn to take this advice though, but if you have a support group who says, 'Hey, let me come wash dishes while you deal with your LOs because I know you're super busy and tired' - take them up on it. I'm managing but it's more grief than it's worth sometime. So cave a little and take the help!

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What a good question! I am going to follow this one because in just a few months this will be me. My babes will be 14 months apart when #2 arrives in October.

My boys were very close together. The initial new born part is difficult because of the constant attention that a new born needs. After awhile it just becomes the new normal. It really isn't so bad looking back but there were absolutely tough days where I had some break downs. Don't worry you will do great!

My good friend has 3 under two! She got pregnant with twins when her oldest was almost 9 months so her girls are about 18 months apart. She is super woman! Her oldest is 4 and the twin girls just turned 3...she says it's great bc they are in similar stages and play well together, are in the same swim class, etc

Mine are 20 months apart. Honestly I was bracing for the worse but it was nowhere near as hard as I expected. The first few weeks were tougher but that's in general due to the newborns phase and exhaustion from sleep deprivation. It also depends on your children, which we all know are all different.

@Springtime: congratulations!!!!!! wahoo!
We plan on starting our TTC process in about 6w, so mine will be 2 under...1.5yrs. HA...ugh...yeah.

I think it will be tougher in the short distance, but easier in the long run. I would rather have 2 kids in highschool rather than, one still in 1st grade, with his young kids stuff and 1 in 9th grade, with his big kid stuff. It'll be easier for me to keep up with them and they can share friends if they are the same age!
So, I am ignoring the nay-sayers, and focusing on the big picture. Also, I think it will be more fun for them as siblings, to be so close. Obviously, the first couple years will be tough.
I'd rather bunch it up together and get it over with!

@Springtime: whaaaat?!?!? CONGRATS!!!

Mine will be 19 months apart and I am kind of freaking out.

Our LO doesnt STTN and still wakes up some nights and cries for hours and hours and hours.

I am terrified for what things will be like when the baby comes!

@Rainbow Sprinkles: DD used to wake up at least 3x a night and come to our room to get me. I knew it would be torture if she kept it up once baby arrived so we "sleep trained." I think she was 18-19 months old.

I did bedtime as usual and locked her door from the outside after she fell asleep. When she woke up and tried to come to me, she couldn't, so she cried for a few minutes, then went back to bed and fell asleep. I was amazed.

Now that she's older, I go to her when she calls me because I know she needs something--pee, a hug, water.

Mine are 23 months apart, and I'm pregnant again, so this one and the middle will be 22 months apart. I liked it so much we did it again!!! It was a little hard, because there are times where one will have to wait (and thus cry). But I enjoy it! Sure there are times when things are crazy, but there are so many more times when it is awesome!