With DD1, the first month was the worst of my life 
But with DD2, it's been quite easy only because DD1 was still in daycare and my husband was home with me the entire time.
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OMG, soooooo hard. I hadn't bonded with Xander yet and I felt like I had made a HUGE mistake! Plus I was such an emotional mess and breastfeeding was soooooooo hard!!!
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@Rubies: same answer!
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It was most definitely the hardest transition of my life. I'm a terrible person in the middle of the night. I am hoping this next one will be a little bit harder of a transition!
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really effing hard! Breastfeeding was a constant struggle and I just felt not like myself at ALL. Hormones are no joke!
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HARD! I think I asked myself several times "what the heck have I gotten myself into!" I cried ALOT!
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I do not know how!!!! on earth I/we did it! I swear I ran on pure adrenaline!
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f*cking sucked. i was a mess--completely and totally anxious about anything and everything.
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Hard! Breastfeeding was so painful and I am not a nice person when I don't get sleep! I'm super nervous about going through this again, but now adding in a toddler to take care of.
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I'm 3 weeks in and it's been...hard. Luckily, breastfeeding has been easier than expected, which was a nice surprise. BUT I've dealt with postpartum anxiety and I'm just now feeling like myself after talking to the doctor and starting meds a couple of weeks ago. I'm so emotional and the anxiety was ridiculous (I couldn't even look at him sometimes because I would cry my eyes out thinking that he was "growing up too fast" or thinking about something tragic happening).
I just feel blessed that I have family nearby and I'm hardly ever alone. They are a great support system.
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I didn't find the first month with L to he hard. He just slept so much! His difficulties came in the second month. However, I was more troubled by healing post delivery, it was AWFUL. I didn't feel like myself and I thought I would never heal. I think being in so much pain caused me to lose more sleep than L did!
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Brutal, the hormones made me crazy!! I'm really hoping that this time will be easier because I know what to expect? Not likely though! lol!
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The first 2 weeks really weren't that bad- yes I was exhausted in a level I never experienced, but I was expecting that, and I think I still just had a tin if adrenaline or hormones or something pushin me forward. Then our moms came to stay for a week each and I had help round the clock, so again, tired but not horrific. Breastfeeding was hard work but I didn't struggle the way I know a lot of people do.
BUT 2.5- 3.5 months was probably the hardest month of my life. Her sleeping just went to absolutely sh!t, I wasn't ready for that, and she suddenly seemed to develop colic and would just cry for a few hours for no apparent reason. That's when the "what have we done, this was a mistake" feelings started. Followed by the horrible guilt for ever thinking that. That was a lot harder than the first month with her.
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@Lindsay05: "I am a terrible person in the middle of the night." This is so true. Never articulated it like that. It helps
I am a pretty outstanding person the rest of the day, but man. MOTN me sucks.
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I kind of can't remember. The first week was miserable, because E was in the hospital. I felt dazed and lost. The second week, DH was home, so I had a lot of help and she was on a pretty set schedule from the hospital, so i felt like I knew what to expect. Weeks 3/4, I just can't remember. I was getting my groove still and didn't feel like myself. We had bouts of awfulness due to the reflux (which I didn't know that's what it was). If i had known...sigh. Could've saved myself a lot of headache.
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Super hard the first time, but easy the second time around. It got harder after the newborn phase the second time.
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@mjane: @Lindsay05: yea, I'm also a horrible person in the middle of the night. I have zeero patience!
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Easyish.
My mom kept commenting how well I was doing, because she said most post partum women in our family are a mess at first. But I had an "easy" baby who basically slept 3-4 before waking up all throughout the day and night, and by two months, she was already sleeping 8-2 am with no wakeups, then 2-5, at which point my husband would take her to spend time with her before he left for work. My LO would sleep great in our stroller (except for the No Nap Week of 2013, right when she turned 6 weeks), so I could go anywhere I wanted during the day. I went out to lunch with friends, went to mommy meetups, went to BF suport groups twice a week, etc. It helped that I have an amazing husband who really "leaned in" despite having to go back to work the week LO came home from the hospital.
Much harder for me has been months 3-4.5 (where we are now). LO's sleep fell apart right after 3 months and she started waking up every 1-2 hours all night, which lasted 6 full weeks. Her eating issues became worse (diagnosed with MSPI, I started the diet, diagnosed with reflux, we started meds. Lots and lots of doctor's appointments). Just...lots of stress and anxiety over LO's eating that was probably made worse by lack of sleep.
I felt (and feel) like a walking zombie. I will not miss this stage.
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OMG, the worst! Although I love my baby, I think I was a bit depressed because of breastfeeding and all the issues that came along with it. Its sad, but I felt like a slave of some sort. Basically, I felt like I was there just for the baby's needs, and my husband was the one who was able to enjoy our son. It was sad. I felt much better after switching to formula about a month or so later.
edit: And not to mention the crying, and the hormones, waking up soaked in sweat. Yuck! Oh my, I can't believe I'm going to have to go through this again another day. Ha!
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@Foodnerd81: yup, our LO's must be colluding! Very similar story here.
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Hormones and lack of sleep made me feel crazy! I hope this go around it isn't as bad. Maybe cause I'll already know what to expect?
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Honestly it was quite a blur. My mom came over everyday for the first two weeks and DH had two weeks off. Mom let us nap during the day, brought us food, and cleaned the house for us. She spoiled us
Surpringly I wasn't hormonal (wasn't during pregnancy either), just sleep deprived.
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I think the hardest part was the hormones, lack of sleep, and worrying about my post partum recovery. It honestly wasn't too terrible though! I felt like I took to motherhood pretty naturally.
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@.twist.: @mjane: Good, i'm not the only one! All I need is someone to ask me if LO is fussy and it gets nasty.
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I try not to think about it 0_0
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@hilsy85: I'm having breastfeeding issues with #2...So hard
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I cried constantly the first two weeks of DS's life. It took about 6 weeks for me to establish a real bond with him above and beyond my instincts to care for him.
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Hands down, worst month of my life. I had serious regrets about having had a baby and my hormones were ALL over the place. It scares me so much whenever I think about having another baby, but I just hope that at least I'll be more mentally prepared?
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it wasn't as daunting or as hard as i'd imagined it, but it was also the hardest adjustment period of my life: emotionally, physically, and with DH too.
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Hardest month of my life!
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@Foodnerd81: I was going to write the exact same thing. Month 3 was way harder than month 1 for me. Month 1 I was still on that high of having a newborn and I didn't sleep but I also didn't expect to sleep. I was naive and thought she'd be STTN by month 3, and that's when the sleep deprivation and short naps really caught up with me (she napped all the time in month 1)!
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breastfeeding was rough..we couldn't get her to latch correctly. aside from that, it was fine.
my husband caused more strain than the baby.
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OH the hormones. I would cry at the drop of a hat as well. And the constant guilt of doing something wrong like eating the wrong foods or unable to get LO to nap. It was just a mess.
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So incredibly difficult - mentally/emotionally and physically! I felt like I was on the brink of a nervous breakdown...my milk didn't come in for about a week and breast feeding was so hard at first. I'm really hoping everything is easier the second time around
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I found 6-8 weeks a lot harder than the first month. The exhaustion had kicked in, help was gone, DH was back at work, DH threw out his back and couldn't pick up the baby or get out of bed at night because his pain meds conked him out. At around 7 weeks I got on anti-depressants and around 8 weeks he started sleeping in 4 hour stretches and I felt human again.
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I sort of don't remember. I was exhausted. And I was incredibly mean, anxious, and hormonal with everyone but my baby.
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the first 4 months with LO#1 were pretty hard.
LO#2 is 2 months old now, and seriously a trillion times easier! i don't know how that works!
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The first month was actually pretty easy -- DS had an easy time with breastfeeding, and he slept incredibly well for a newborn. Because he regained his birth weight and packed on lbs early (went from 9.3 at birth to over 12 at 6 weeks) we were given the green light to let him sleep as long as he wanted so I got lots of rest. Additionally, I recovered fairly easily.
I will say that weeks 6-8 were pretty awful though, and this past month (a late 4 month sleep regression and/or teething) has been our hardest time with him! We are exhausted.
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Difficult, but not because of DD. She took to BFing really easily and was a great newborn. I also felt like I took to motherhood well.
The hardest parts were my pp recovery (AWFUL!), dealing with family expectations (I really didn't like having a lot of visitors or people trying to "help" when I was trying to learn my DD's rhythms), and finding a balance between being a mom and a wife - on too little sleep.
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With DS1 it was the most difficult time of my life. I was exclusively pumping, and we were supplementing with formula. He was eating every 2 hours and I just couldn't keep up.
The second time around is sooo different. I'm successfully breastfeeding and can tolerate frequent feedings and lack of sleep. I don't have to follow up with pumping and washing bottles. Feels like complete freedom to me! Of course adding in a toddler to the mix and cooking dinner every night is pretty hard to juggle.
I am a pretty outstanding person the rest of the day, but man. MOTN me sucks.
Surpringly I wasn't hormonal (wasn't during pregnancy either), just sleep deprived.
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