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It wasn't so bad for us because we live within walking distance of everything, so it's just a matter of loading up the stroller. I still would only go for short outings in the very beginning but I can't imagine having to load of the car, drive somewhere, take them out, etc, alone. I probably would not have left the house for several months if I were i that situation!

Mine were 10 weeks old when I went to Target by myself with them. The hardest part was getting them fed, changed, all their stuff packed in the car, etc. actually being out with them wasn't the hard part. However, if you're BFing there's always that panic of what do I do if they both need to eat at the same time? Basically in the beginning I only took them out to places that I could leave quickly if I needed to (Target, coffee shops, on walks, friends' houses). It was a long time before I took them out for lunch with other people where I felt like I was committing to a couple hours outside the house. One thing you get good at is figuring out easy places to get them in and out of. You learn really quickly which places have steps up to the door, or which places have (functioning) automatic doors which makes it easier to get a huge stroller in and out.

All that said, getting out and about is only the tip of the iceberg of how difficult twins are. It is hard. Every day is still hard. I don't sleep. I eat every meal on the floor with two kids grabbing my hair and rubbing runny noses on me. I sometimes have to leave one to cry while I tend to the other. They've been sick and both just want me to hold them 24-7 and that's impossible. I want to be able to breastfeed them exclusively and I can't do that either and I feel tired and guilty and stressed all the time. And knowing all that, would I still choose to transfer two? Yes. One hundred time yes. They are the best thing that have ever happened to me and I'm so incredibly grateful that I have two beautiful children and can put my years of infertility behind me.

You have been through so much, and of course only you and DH can decide what's right for your family, but transferring two was so right for us. I knew that if we transferred one and it didn't work, I would always wonder if the result would have been different with two embryos. I wanted to give us as much of a chance as possible, and luckily we were financially and emotionally (sort of mentally) prepared for the possibility. The reality of it is something else though. There's no preparing for that! For us, though, we knew we wanted two children and it was our hope that we wouldn't have to go through IVF ever again. Twins took care of all that. In the end we also did what our dr recommended and just went for it. We didn't have many embryos make it to day 3 and only have one frozen so transferring both out good embryos on day 3 seemed like a good choice from that standpoint too.

If you want to talk about any more of this in further detail just let me know! I'm sort of getting off topic here!

I can't remember exactly when I started solo trips, but I know by 7 or 8 weeks I went on short trips. It's actually easier in some ways when they're little because you just load them up in the double stroller and go. That said, i became an expert at feeding babies bottles in the car so we weren't quite so limited time-wise. Also, you have to just plan on getting stopped a million times because people are soooo fascinated with twin, especially when they're tiny.

Good luck! Being a twin mama is a lot of work, but it is just the best thing ever.

@spaniellove: so happy to "see" you!!!.

@bluestriped bee: I am sorry to thread jack as I have no experience with multiples. But lots of parents manage 2+, so I am sure you could manage if you were fortunate to have 2! Sending you tons of and !

I had three to handle so it took me awhile to go out solo but once I got the hang of it I went everywhere with them. Getting out of the house was awesome and so helpful in those early isolating days. The easiest thing to do was just to go for a walk with the stroller. I could walk to the grocery store or a coffee shop then walk home and it was enough to help keep my from going stir crazy.