I can see with one baby going outside to run errands but what about with multiples?
Must be so scary trying to juggle your twins/triplets/more for a single parent errand.
Yeah, with my upcoming IVF cycle, all I can think about is the chance of multiples. I would love twins but I think the reality of multiples is starting to creep in. I'm starting to wonder if I should just transfer 1 blastocyst instead of the 2 we were going to do. *Cue the hypothetical multiple babies freakout*
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
I've seen moms with twins at breastfeeding class like less than a week after birth. They just have them loaded up and brought them in a stroller. I feel like the hardest part (like with any baby) is the coordination of all the "stuff".
nectarine / 2152 posts
It wasn't so bad for us because we live within walking distance of everything, so it's just a matter of loading up the stroller. I still would only go for short outings in the very beginning but I can't imagine having to load of the car, drive somewhere, take them out, etc, alone. I probably would not have left the house for several months if I were i that situation!
honeydew / 7916 posts
No personal experience but I feel like I see quite a few moms with twins younger than J out and about! Just last weekend I saw a mom who had managed to fit two newborn girls in the cart at Target, so I think it's all about attitude!
ETA: And how much those babies cooperate too, obviously
honeydew / 7230 posts
Mine were 10 weeks old when I went to Target by myself with them. The hardest part was getting them fed, changed, all their stuff packed in the car, etc. actually being out with them wasn't the hard part. However, if you're BFing there's always that panic of what do I do if they both need to eat at the same time? Basically in the beginning I only took them out to places that I could leave quickly if I needed to (Target, coffee shops, on walks, friends' houses). It was a long time before I took them out for lunch with other people where I felt like I was committing to a couple hours outside the house. One thing you get good at is figuring out easy places to get them in and out of. You learn really quickly which places have steps up to the door, or which places have (functioning) automatic doors which makes it easier to get a huge stroller in and out.
All that said, getting out and about is only the tip of the iceberg of how difficult twins are. It is hard. Every day is still hard. I don't sleep. I eat every meal on the floor with two kids grabbing my hair and rubbing runny noses on me. I sometimes have to leave one to cry while I tend to the other. They've been sick and both just want me to hold them 24-7 and that's impossible. I want to be able to breastfeed them exclusively and I can't do that either and I feel tired and guilty and stressed all the time. And knowing all that, would I still choose to transfer two? Yes. One hundred time yes. They are the best thing that have ever happened to me and I'm so incredibly grateful that I have two beautiful children and can put my years of infertility behind me.
You have been through so much, and of course only you and DH can decide what's right for your family, but transferring two was so right for us. I knew that if we transferred one and it didn't work, I would always wonder if the result would have been different with two embryos. I wanted to give us as much of a chance as possible, and luckily we were financially and emotionally (sort of mentally) prepared for the possibility. The reality of it is something else though. There's no preparing for that! For us, though, we knew we wanted two children and it was our hope that we wouldn't have to go through IVF ever again. Twins took care of all that. In the end we also did what our dr recommended and just went for it. We didn't have many embryos make it to day 3 and only have one frozen so transferring both out good embryos on day 3 seemed like a good choice from that standpoint too.
If you want to talk about any more of this in further detail just let me know! I'm sort of getting off topic here!
persimmon / 1420 posts
Two weeks? I was terrified, but I NEEDED to get out, and Safeway seemed easy. They slept the whole time.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I can't remember exactly when I started solo trips, but I know by 7 or 8 weeks I went on short trips. It's actually easier in some ways when they're little because you just load them up in the double stroller and go. That said, i became an expert at feeding babies bottles in the car so we weren't quite so limited time-wise. Also, you have to just plan on getting stopped a million times because people are soooo fascinated with twin, especially when they're tiny.
Good luck! Being a twin mama is a lot of work, but it is just the best thing ever.
pomegranate / 3791 posts
I don't have twins, but I do have 2 under 2 (a 2 month old and a 1.5 year old) and I definitely agree with @twodoghouse that the hardest part isn't once you actually are out of the house, it's the process of leaving the house! Getting them both dressed, packing the diaper bag, loading up the stroller, getting them both outside and in their car seats....oh man. That is the challenging part - I've started laying out clothes and packing the diaper bag as much as possible the night before if I know I have to take them somewhere by myself in the morning! I couldn't start doing it until 6 weeks though because before that I wasn't cleared to lift my toddler.
pear / 1786 posts
@spaniellove: so happy to "see" you!!!.
@bluestriped bee: I am sorry to thread jack as I have no experience with multiples. But lots of parents manage 2+, so I am sure you could manage if you were fortunate to have 2! Sending you tons of and !
pomelo / 5041 posts
I think that having twins as your first kids is certainly harder than one but also will be double as rewarding. If you can financially afford it, that's important to consider too. In your shoes I'd totally opt for two embryos. And at least you'll have 9 months to prepare for twins. I'll be honest, I'm scared to have twins on top of my 15 month old but I think parenting is all about adapting and at some point you get really good at it because you have to.
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
@T.H.O.U.: Yeah, I think going to a babies class won't be as bad, but going to the grocery store... scary.
@Trailmix: Nice! Being within walking distance would be awesome.
@spaniellove: Great point about attitude. You proabably have to psych yourself into it.
@twodoghouse: Wow! Thank you so much for writing all of that. I mean all of it. The good, bad and ugly and with a bonus IF tip.
@meganmp: Oh, that's right! They do sleep a lot in the beginning.
@Mrs. Blue: Aww, thanks! Lots of planning ahead and lots of car time.
@wonderstruck: Ok, that kinda freaks me out that I will have to start laying my clothes out for the day so that I can leave the house. Guess you have to do what you have to do... to get out of the house... Haha.
@kentuckygirl: Aww, thanks!!
@marionberry: Great point. Thank you!
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@bluestriped bee: when they're newborns you shouldn't need to! But when you have toddlers running around wanting constant attention it makes things easier to do as much as you can while they're asleep. But you'll be used to it by then
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I had three to handle so it took me awhile to go out solo but once I got the hang of it I went everywhere with them. Getting out of the house was awesome and so helpful in those early isolating days. The easiest thing to do was just to go for a walk with the stroller. I could walk to the grocery store or a coffee shop then walk home and it was enough to help keep my from going stir crazy.
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
I'm at 2 months and I guess with both my DH and I at home (DH works from home and I'm at maternity leave) I can leave the babies at home while I run errands or vice versa, if DH has errands. I'll see how things go when I have to go back to work and DH will be solo. The babies do enjoy car rides so I would be fine going somewhere if i stayed in the car. As for going shopping, I guess I will just have to time my trips around their feeding and sleeping schedules.