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How long did you wait to have sex?

  1. mrsrain

    nectarine / 2115 posts

    3-4 months!

  2. sera_87

    pomegranate / 3604 posts

    six weeks after my first
    2 weeks after my second (both vaginal deliveries)
    four? five? days after my third (c-section).

  3. lilyofthewest

    pear / 1697 posts

    My bits were probably adequately healed within 7 or 8 weeks. However, I was so tired from our refluxy, colicy baby that we didn't have sex for several months. I could not imagine spending time/energy on something recreational when I could be sleeping our showering.

  4. QBbride

    pomegranate / 3192 posts

    We waited 6-7 weeks both times. Honestly physically I was ready before then (especially the second time, I was probably physically ready by 4 weeks) but I was really tired and not in the mood. Heck I'm almost 8m PP and I'm still not in the mood. Breastfeeding kills my sex drive and I never had a high sex drive to begin with.

  5. tofuwad

    apricot / 443 posts

    Let's just say it was so long I don't think I could count it in weeks without some serious math!

  6. littleblessings

    pear / 1739 posts

    Attempted at 5.5 weeks after my first. Succeeded at 8.5 weeks. Tore pretty bad during DDs birth

    Successfully DTD at 4 days postpartum with DS. Had a vaginal birth with no tearing and oddly enough no bleeding

  7. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @littleblessings: 4 days?! Whoa mama! I was definitely still bleeding heavily then. Can't believe you weren't!

    One of my girlfriends went to her 6w PP appointment without her DH. When she got home she told him the doctor said they need to wait 6 months!! Poor guy. He didn't fall for it with LO2.

  8. Mrs. Pink

    GOLD / kiwi / 605 posts

    5 weeks- I had a csection and bleeding was long gone... I could have waited but hubby was really, really starting to get obnoxious about it... He would've never fallen for the "waiting longer than 6 weeks" line... He knows too many people who are way to open about that kind of thing 😂

  9. petitenoisette

    pear / 1521 posts

    Shortly after my 6 week check up. More for my husband's sake. I had a c-section and it was still pretty unpleasant!

  10. Ms. RV

    pear / 1930 posts

    6 months We started making plans to DTD at like four months but between that and six months it seems someone was always sick or I had AF. Or tired. Haha. How am I supposed to be in the mood on four hours of sleep??

  11. QBbride

    pomegranate / 3192 posts

    @littleblessings: 4 days?! Good for you!! I was still bleeding, but even if I wasn't, I definitely didn't feel like it haha.

  12. Rainbow Sprinkles

    eggplant / 11287 posts

    6 weeks with #1
    6 weeks with #2
    5 weeks with #3

  13. littleblessings

    pear / 1739 posts

    @QBbride: @delight: birth was so easy with my second that i got my libido back 24 hours after birth.

  14. lady baltimore

    persimmon / 1183 posts

    It was somewhere around 10 weeks PP. I was physically ready sooner, but that was the first time the opportunity presented itself. We still haven't done it with LO in the house - not sure about the logistics there.

  15. wrkbrk

    pomelo / 5084 posts

    Too long. 12 weeks.

  16. Portboston

    persimmon / 1279 posts

    About 7/8 weeks the for the first time. And not again since!!!!! It was so bad. LO is 7.5 months now 😳 Breastfeeding & sleep deprivation kill my libido

  17. MrsADS

    nectarine / 2262 posts

    @portboston glad to hear it's not just me! I think it was 3 months pp. And it hurt. I had a bad episiotomy. I'm 6.5 mos pp and it's still not great. I feel kinda bad about it but I am so overwhelmed and getting no sleep and with BFing... just have zero interest. Hope I am not torpedoing my marriage but every minute of sleep is precious. Uggh!

  18. Foodnerd81

    wonderful cherry / 21504 posts

    I don't even understand how people are doing it so soon. Though part of my problem now is the baby is still in our room, toddler is in her room, so that leaves the living room? Both of us are just way too tired to even attempt it plus everyone keeps getting sick. Baby is 11 weeks old now and I don't see it happening soon.
    I cant remember after DD1, probably sooner than this but not fun.

  19. ladybee

    grapefruit / 4079 posts

    @Foodnerd81: I think what makes me feel like it is that DH has been so amazing and supportive during my PDD/PPA this time around that I feel so connected. Plus my mom and my MIL are staying one night a week each (my mom is sometimes doing 2-3 nights) and doing the feedings so I am sleeping. Plus I am very medicated and feel like myself.

  20. travellingbee

    hostess / papaya / 10219 posts

    @Foodnerd81: man I could have written your post! Ditto to all! We haven't even kissed on the mouth in months due to so much illness!

  21. erinpye

    pomegranate / 3706 posts

    Months with our first baby. I think 8ish weeks the second time.


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