How long did you wait before executing permanent birth control?
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2 mins?
I had my tubes tied right after my c/s with #2
eta: We knew we were done - we had planned for 2 kids and that's it!
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DH is 10000% done...though we are in the throws of newborn fun right now...
DH always wanted a son, we have 2 beautiful girls...
I could go either way. If he holds firm on being 100% done - I'll be ok with that.
That said...I feel compelled to wait a little while (1-2 years) to make it permanent...1) in case when the dust settles he wants to try for a boy and 2) god forbid something happen...do we really want to have no options?
I'm having mirena placed in a few weeks...so I have 5 years I guess...
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We still haven't taken permanent measures and are 100% done. My IUD is good for 3 more years, so we have some time. Even though we always knew our max was 2, I wasn't comfortable with the idea of permanent BC until our youngest was about 18 months. Now, I'm really starting to wonder about what the next step is since I'm completely sure I never want to be pregnant again.
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I'm in the middle of this, too. We have two perfect little girls (DH is bummed that he won't have a son but it isn't the end of the world and he's thrilled with our girls) and are pretty positive we are done. It's just all the "what if's" that's making it hard to decide on permanent measures. We also have several frozen embryos from IVF which is part of our decision too...how long we continue to pay for their storage.
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We haven't taken permanent measures either and I don't think I ever will now. I had looked into uterine ablation, but now since it won't be covered under my insurance I am back to charting.
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I've been wondering this too..... DH is 100% done, whereas I would be open to the idea of a third. I've mentioned vasectomy twice to DH now, but neither occasion was "the right time to talk about it"!. I'm going to leave the ball in his court now. Im thinking if he goes for the snip, I will accept we are two and through and if not......
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Trying to figure this out myself, we have two awesome little boys, only 11.5 months apart the younger being just 3 months old. We've always said we were done at two but I am not so sure now. We planned for DH to have a vasectomy at some point not to long after DS was born but haven't discussed it much recently. I'm on BC for now. I think I'd like to wait until DS is a year old and re-evaluate. I'll be almost 37 by then and don't want to wait too long to have another we do decide to go for one more.
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We're still waiting, even though we're done. I'm not ready to make anything permanent yet.
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Glad I am not the only one struggling with the permanent decision!
I dont really think DH will change his mind...but I think its too hard in the early newborn days (especially with a 2.5 yo running around) to be of sane mind!
I know he will be afraid of the Vasectomy...but after talking with my Dr and learning how "not" 100% female procedures are it is my only option. I dont do surprises well - so when we are ready we will have to go with the most secure procedure!
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We agreed long before DS was born (he'll be 7 weeks tomorrow) that this would be our last pregnancy. He gets his vasectomy the Friday before Father's Day.
Even if we changed our minds and wanted a third child, neither of us is willing for me to go through pregnancy again, so we would adopt. -
IDK If I will ever do anything permanent! I feel like I could never actually commit to being done for sure!
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We are pretty sure we are done having kids naturally but we both decided not to take permanent measures until we were 40.
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@Mamaof2: this! Same here. I was 40 when our second was born. 16 months later I know there's no way I could be a parent of 3.
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DH had a vasectomy 3 months after our second daughter was born. But no way could my uterus handle another pregnancy, so there wasn't really any question. He suggested I have my tubes tied during my second C/S and I said it was his turn to get cut up.
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I'm too afraid of something happening to make a permanent decision right away. I guess it's morbid but if SIDS or something happened, I want the option to try again.
Also, DH is the one going permanent, and I worry that if something happens to me and he remarries he'll regret it.
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We're not there yet (still baking #2) but this is definitely on my mind. I get pregnant super easily and we were actively preventing when I got pregnant this time (we're still not even sure how it happened). Good thing we want another! Honestly it would probably be best for both of us to get fixed but I don't know when I would do it if I don't have a c-section (and I'm not planning on one now). I'll probably push for DH to do it pretty soon after LO2 is born.
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I am 1000% done after this pregnancy and am considering getting my tubes tied during my repeat c-section. If I end up not doing that, DH will get a vasectomy when we can manage with him being out of commission for a couple days.
I'm currently 38, I'm on my 2nd child, and we will have both genders. I am done done done. But even if some tragedy were to happen with this baby, I just can't do pregnancy again. I'm getting through it by reminding myself this is the last time.
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DH got a vasectomy when I was 8 months pregnant
thank goodness, as he had complications so there was no way I would be able to handle hurt DH, newborn and a 4 year old! (everything is fine now) -
It will be many years. I had LO at 25 and even though I feel firmly one and done, neither of us are ready to take permanent measures because of our young age.
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We are 98% sure we are done, with our two girls, but neither of us are ready to make it permanent. I got an iud so we have five years to figure it out.
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A little less than a year and a half.
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We are waiting to decide about a LO3 (or rather, I'm trying to convince DH). We will wait until LO2 is at least 5 before taking permanent measures, although if we do have a third, we'd take permanent measures right after.
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@Torchwood: Maybe I am morbid too but I have the same fears! You're definitely not alone in those thoughts...
@Jess1483: I agree...I know for certain that if we did have a third it would definitely be the last so I'd do something permanent right away.
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I wanted my husband to get it done while I was pregnant for the second (and final) time. It was the middle of bike racing season, so he waited until the winter. But it is done done done.
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@Torchwood: @Mrs D: You ladies aren't alone. It might be morbid, but we've had the same thoughts/discussions. At some point, we'll reach a no-turning-back point, but we're not there yet.
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