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@JoJoGirl: Same. Most families I know have 1 or 2 kids. 3 is tops but I also live in a suburb outside of DC. So, the cost of living is very high.
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@BandDmommy: No kidding, that's where I grew up! And yes when anyone I know has a 3rd kid I'm like
Wonder if it's geographical! I'm in Boston now, so same goes here with cost of living/cost of childcare.
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@JoJoGirl: we're homies! @BandDmommy: one of my classmates was the youngest of four (largest family that I knew); the dining room was beautifully lined with each of the kid's portraits- painted not photos. For a split second I thought four would be awesome. Then, I remembered just how crazy silly my classmate was and thought four is definitely one too many. Lol
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I would love to have 4. I've always wanted a full house, especially when everyone is grown up and my kids start having kids. I want to be the grandma with the full house for holidays. Some of my fondest childhood memories are going to my grandmas house for Christmas dinner and there would be so many people we would have to break out extra tables and chairs in the garage.
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@KT326: Yes!!!
@JoJoGirl: I live in California and the norm is definitely 3 kids in my particular region. I grew up in a family of four and my sis has four, so that seems totally normal to me. Crazy but normal.
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@JoJoGirl: A co-worker just had his 4th (his wife is a SAHM, and also homeschools - which is unusual for our area). He's not overtly religious, but who knows. My OB also has 4 boys, but she just really, really loves kids.
I always only saw myself with two. But since having DS, and seeing other real life families of 6, I can definitely see our family expanding to 2 additional kids. Which is probably good, since twins run in my family, and I didn't have an easy pregnancy.
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@JoJoGirl: I agree. I know a handfull with three kids but no one with 4. Most are done with 2.
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I always saw myself with 4 kids, all boys. I thought there would be 3 years between them all and I would be done having kids when I was 35.
Not at all how life happened though.
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Still just 2, which is what we will have (#2 is coming in 3.5 weeks!)
Mentally, I don't think I could handle more than two kids.
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I know I want at least 3, but if I got 3 boys I would def. try for a girl. I voted 4 and would be happy with that as there were 4 in my family, and in DH's family.
DH and I joke that if we win the lottery I will just stay home and make babies.My boss just had his 6th + 7th in 9 years. (2 sets of twins).
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Two. I have absolutely no desire to have 3+, DH really wants 3 but nooope
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I'm in the same boat as those who would have many many kids. I too want a big grown family with a ton of grandkids and such.
But in the real world, I think we're going to stop at two. I just don't see how a third would happen at this stage.
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two. I thought I wanted more, but I've learned after *having* my kids that I really would be way too frazzled on a regular basis, I think. I have anxiety and I'm pretty easily stressed, ha! I would be worried about being less of a Mom to all three kids, than a better Mom to my current two.
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@JoJoGirl: 4 is like the new 3 in my area! And I wouldn't say that these people are super religious or anything. I think some of them truly wanted 4 and I think some of the others are not too good with birth control.
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I've always wanted 3-4. It isn't a religious thing for me at all. I just love kids and big families!
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With unlimited family help and free child care I would want 3. In the real world, where I have limited funds, a limited amount of help from family, and a VERY active and somewhat difficult kid, I am leaning toward one.
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I'd have four! I'm one of four myself, and I looove being in a big family. I'd only do that if I were rich and could afford full time help (nanny and housekeeping) though, and that just isn't the reality of the situation
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@MrsTiz: he might change his mind after #2 arrives. I know my dh did.
Two. And that IS ALL!
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@Mamasig: Oh no - I was in no way implying ONLY religious people have more then 2 everywhere, just here in my urban area I only see 4+ in religious families. I also seriously think you'd have to have like $2 million in the bank to afford a place that can hold a family of 6 around here!
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With unlimited funds, close by helpful family members, and a body that handles pregnancy better I would want 3. But none of those things are the case for me, so 2 it is.
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5. I have a thing for odd numbers.
But a 4th won't happen until we can afford a bigger car, so.....not for awhile.
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@JoJoGirl: Yeah, I work with one guy who has 4 kids. And he knows it's kind of crazy/uncommon. Everyone else I know seems to stop at 2. I feel kind of weird for considering 3!
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If I didn't have such awful pregnancies, I'd say 3. As it is.....I'm pretty good with two.
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3 and that's our plan. We each came from families with 3 kids so that seemed like an easy decision for us!
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Ideally I'd like at least four but if they were all of one gender, I'd only want two.
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Wow. Some craziness up in this thread!
I can't imagine wanting so many kids! But we like to travel and go out to eat and that just sounds like a nightmare with 3+ kids. We have family nearby, and the money to have more kids if we chose, and I still wouldn't ever want more than 2. I just can't handle all that chaos.
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@simplyfelicity: In our real life we'll probably have 3 MAYBE 4, in a perfect world I would want 4 or 5... maybe even 6! I would be happy with a whole bunch of munchkins!
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I would love to have 3 or even 4. I grew up as one of 3, and loved it. I wouldn't have more than 4 because I wouldn't want to stretch us so thin trying to give everyone the attention they needed. In reality, we will stop at 2, or maybe 3 depending on circumstances. Part of our reasoning is that my husband already has a 10 year old son, so if we were to have 3 together, that would make 4, which is a lot of kids.
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3. Though in our case, if we ever get pregnant again, we'll count ourselves lucky at 2. Or maybe even just the 1 we've got.
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2 maybe 3 for us in reality, 2 of each ideally if we were younger, richer, and more patient!
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I loved being one of 3 growing up, but think 2 is right for us in our current world/time/life situation. God willing, we'll make our goal, I hope, but if not, we've got one amazing LO.
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Idk actually. I have always just wanted to take it one kiddo at a time. dH would say at least 4, probably more!!
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Id definitely have another so 4 I think maybe even 5 but adopting at that point
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3 or 4, we'll see how it goes.
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In a perfect world, 3.
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I'm with what seems like the majority with wanting 4! We live in a high cost of living area in what is considered a desirable suburb and it's honestly not that out of the ordinary to have 4.
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4 but I LOVE babies so maybe more...lol
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Two, maybe three. Through, I'm very content with one right now.
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If I could pick, I've always wanted two boys and then a girl. DH really only wants two due to money and I'm pregnant with our second boy.
When our oldest goes to kindergarten, we will discuss if we want another. It'll but a 3.5-4 year age gap between Lo2 and the baby and 6 year between lo1 and baby. I'm not sure about that.
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Two I think.
Wonder if it's geographical! I'm in Boston now, so same goes here with cost of living/cost of childcare.
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