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How often do you have to solo parent?

  1. Turd Ferguson

    pomegranate / 3160 posts

    A ton. DH travels for work and is gone 5-10 days at a time, then home for a day or two, then gone again.

  2. sandy

    cantaloupe / 6687 posts

    It varies a lot. Sometimes he's gone for a work trip every week for 2-3 days for several months but then he'll have a stretch of no travel for a month. I don't mind the overnight trips. It's the trips that are longer than three days or back to back that can make it tough bc you get no break but my parents are always willing to come help if needed...even if just for an hour or two in the afternoon.

  3. Aandmklover

    kiwi / 506 posts

    DH travels for work a few times a year. He's going out of town next week and it will be my first time alone overnight with our 3 week old and 22 month old. Eek!

  4. HLK208

    pineapple / 12234 posts

    A lot. DH is gone 14 hours a day with commuting and he works between 5-14 days straight. His schedule varies every week but he usually only has one or two days off.

  5. filly

    cherry / 201 posts

    I do all mornings and maybe 1/month when DH goes to Portland [one night] for work.

  6. Vegmama

    pear / 1799 posts

    I get a little "weird" about saying I solo parent ... While I'm home, he's working hard to provide, so I think he's parenting in that way.

    I am alone with baby in the mornings (until noon) 5 days a week, and most evenings until 6ish. We have a nanny 3 days a week, so I can work (I work from home). I will say, the days our nanny isn't here (and my partner works late) are harder than the others. It gives me a lot of empathy for moms and dads who don't have a partner for whatever reason. Balancing housework, taking care of baby, and work is hard.

  7. woodentulip

    persimmon / 1378 posts

    I solo parent for about a week a month when my husband travels. He is often around for breakfast, but then not home before bed, but then comes home shortly after so I can get some air!

  8. spaniellove

    honeydew / 7916 posts

    Close to 12 hours a day, 5 days a week. He comes home just before bedtime. And several hours a day on the weekends.

  9. jhd

    coconut / 8073 posts

    @OldEnglandMama: that sounds so very hard! Big hugs to you!

  10. MamaChin

    clementine / 830 posts

    Mon-Fri, he's gone before the kids wake and home just to do bedtime. So he spends 10 mins with each kid on weekdays. It's not easy but his demanding work schedule is what allows me to stay home so can't complain much, at least we have the choice.

  11. pinkb

    pear / 1599 posts

    DH and I both solo parent 5 days a week since we work opposite shifts.

  12. Ocean girl

    kiwi / 637 posts

    A lot. DH has 10.5 months left of his residency program and works most days 7-6 and then studies in the evenings. I feel bad, he only gets about 30 minutes a day with DD. Thank goodness the end is in sight!!

  13. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    It depends. I SAH so I solo parent on the weekdays. Sometimes DH works late and barely makes it home for a late bedtime. Often if he is working a lot we will go stay with my mom. We've also done that when we were moving but had no place for a month or had work done on the house or when family was visiting. I spent a couple weeks at my mom's house with just LO while she was on vacation and we only saw DH on the weekends. It is not at all unusual for me to have both kids overnight by myself.

  14. Blueberry

    apricot / 342 posts

    Just twice a week and that's only for like 6 hours.. DH's schedule is pretty great

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