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I'm so sorry that you're going through such a hard time. I'm sure it's really difficult! If you don't feel comfortable disclosing exactly why you are avoiding friends, I'd still encourage you to say something along the lines of "I'm sorry. It's not you. I have been going through some tough things and unfortunately it means that I've pulled away from some friends. I don't feel ready to talk about it, but it's nothing you've done." Or something...
I think addressing things in as straight-forward a manner as you are comfortable with is always the way to go. You might find that talking about it makes it easier to deal with. Good luck!

Ugh. We're still trying, but I totally know what you mean. I feel like ALL of our friends are announcing they are pregnant. DH's best friend announced at dinner last week that they were expecting in August and I almost started crying at the table. I am so happy for them, but so unhappy for us.
I've been journaling and that seems to help some. We haven't told our friends either, but I am going to tell my 3 closest friends in 2 weeks when we go on a trip. I just feel so alone (we've been trying for 15 months), that I can't keep it in anymore. That's all we're telling though.

I think if you felt like you could trust your friend, you could tell her and I'm sure she would understand. She probably just hates losing your friendship.
<<hugs>>>

Think of it this way, even if you could have kids but aren't there yet then bday parties and kiddie events understandably aren't really your thing yet. Maybe you can tell your friend that all of the talk and activities seem to be revolving around kids lately and suggest doing something different like going out to dinner (adults only) or going out for drinks. You're right that you can't avoid your friends with children forever, but maybe saying something like this in the meanwhile will give her a little hint that you're sensitive about the baby overload around you. If you feel comfortable opening up further, just tell her you need some time due to the news you received and a good friend will understand.

I'm so sorry, I can imagine how difficult this can be. I think that your friend cares quite a bit for you to notice your distance and to inquire about it. Of course, if you don't want to tell people your situation you have every right now to. But maybe you can, as @Megwag suggested, just inform your friends that you're going through something and that with some time you can ressume your friendship.

Immediately after my surgery (Lap for Endo and diagnosed PCOS) I almost cried every time a new friend popped up pregnant on facebook. I felt like a wreck. I just gave myself some time, but one of the BEST things I did were these things:

1. I blogged my feelings. When I was angry, I wrote it, When I was sad, I wrote it. When I was hopeful, wrote that too. You can always set it to private. I just type faster than I write.

2. I wrote letters. This may sound insane, but I wrote letters to my future children, as I am fully okay with adopting if we get to that point. I wrote my feelings on that, what my surgery meant, and wrote about how much I want to be a mommy. I asked my future child for forgiveness of my imperfections and I wrote about adoption too. They were pretty long. Who knows, I may burn them or I may give them to my future kids (whether natural or adopted) or whatever. I just wrote to express it.

3. I told my closest friends and family how I was feeling. Yeah, I felt like some of my friends were walking on eggshells around me afterwards, but to me it was better than ostracizing myself. In general, people were really supportive. I'm a pretty open person, you can usually read my like an open book, so for me it was better to just get it out there.

I know those things may not be helpful, but maybe at least part of that was.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.