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Posting as anonymous for this but I have been that friend.
I had an emotional/physical affair a couple years ago. It was a complicated situation and I confided in only 2 friends with varying degrees of information each.

My best advice is to listen, try as hard as you can to take the advice of @Sams Mom to not take it personally, and be there for her to support her. The path forward she chooses to take is up to her and you can continue to make decisions on how you support her (or if you don't!) based on those actions. Does she want to stay and end the affair? Will she tell her husband or keep this from him? Does she intend to end her marriage and pursue a relationship with her affair partner? Things like that. Supporting her now while she figures things out does not mean you have to support every decision she makes.

I wanted to end my affair, repair my marriage and stay with my family. I am thankful everyday for the grace and forgiveness of my husband and the friends who he confided in to support him, as well as the support of the friends who I chose to tell and who helped me through that difficult time. It is incredibly hard to be vulnerable with people, to be honest knowing you will be severely judged by them no matter how close you are, and to admit to something that has or will hurt someone else they care about equally as much as you in the process... but it was the first step for me in ending my affair. If I had kept it all to myself the whole time I do not know that it would have ended the same way. Good luck to you both.

I'm in a little bit of a similar situation to you, although not exactly. The question I would ask is: are you friends with the husband too? Because if so, she's putting you in a bit of a difficult situation and I don't think you'd be totally out of line telling her that your loyalties are a bit split and you'd rather she confide in somebody else. If not, I think you just have to do as the others have suggested - try to separate your personal feelings, do a lot of listening, and ask the hard questions but non-judgementally.

I see you have already commented but I just wanted to say that I was also in this situation and I was totally shocked and disgusted when I found out about my friends transgressions.. I guess mostly bc I thought she had a pretty good thing with her DH and she should have been happy. I basically bit back my initial reaction and listened to her and her entire story and she explained some things to me about the whole situation that made me at least able to see it from her perspective a little.

She knew I didn't condone it but by being indifferent and letting her talk it out she confided in me and I was able to help her. She had already decided to cut it off and work with her DH. It was hard for her and she was working through all of it and what it meant and why she had done it. There were a LOT of contributing factors but in the end she owned what she did and she was working to fix the issues and end the affair.

We are still very close friends and her and her Dh are doing great...