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Hmmmm, at the end of my pregnancy, I have to admit that I felt seriously guilty/worried about having #2. My husband said it was too late to reconsider, but truthfully, I was regretting getting pregnant again. I was so worried that everything was going to get inifitely harder and that having another baby would ruin our whole lives. Luckily, I was wrong.

Maybe I'm just a little extra optimistic today because it's been a really good day, but it's not nearly as bad as I thought. Actually, we had a much harder transition from 0-1 than from 1-2. We have tough days, don't get me wrong, but overall it's much easier than I thought it would be.

The hardest thing for me has just been figuring out the logistics of taking care of two. How do you use a public bathroom when you have two kids (a curious toddler and an infant)? Who gets in the car first? Who gets out of the car first? How do you feed two kids at the same time? How do you put two kids down for bed at te same time (I still haven't figured this one out)? I started a thread a little while back with tips/tricks; maybe that will help you, too:
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-2-tips-and-tricks

Mine are 3 months and 26 months old. For the most part it's been pretty good because the baby is a fairly easy baby (compared to my first who was very high maintenance). I'm lucky that my husband works 3 twelve hour night shifts a week so he is home 4.5 days to help out.
The hardest thing at first was getting enough sleep as you can't just sleep when the baby sleeps when you have an active toddler (thank goodness she still naps!) and the hardest thing now is that I have to do bedtime by myself 3 nights a week and they both fall apart at about the same time.

The best thing is that they are soooo adorable together, the baby thinks her big sister is hilarious and amazing and the toddler is always trying to help keep the baby happy and amused.

@Honeybee: The other day I had to use the bathroom at the library. I had the baby strapped to me in the ergo and gave the toddler a book to read. Good times.

@HeatherlovesKenny: yeah, sadly my patience is not so great when I'm sleep deprived. Luckily she doesn't tantrum much and we just put her in her room to calm down for a minute when she does.

I only have one infant at the moment but I imagine it all depends on the age gap between the two. if the first one is more then 3 years old then the 2nd I'm guessing the logistics will be differentt then if they are both under 3 years

I'm so nervous about this too!

I haven't even opened this thread til now because I'm so afraid. I'm not feeling too guilty or anything (I am a neglected second child, hehe, who always lived in my brother's shadow, so I sometimes purposely don't pay attention to Wagon Jr. while Wagon Sr. is with us so that he doesn't get too used to having both of our undivided attention!) but the transition from 0-1 was so crazy for us that I'm really afraid of the craziness of this second transition. Things are finally settling down and we're finally comfortable where we are, and this baby will be here in 3 months or less...!!!

Our transition from 1 dog to 2 was pretty good, and now they have each other so I wouldn't have it any other way, but I know that's no comparison.

@sarbear: My mom said the same thing! Adding the second one is hard, but adding more after that is easy. Although I only plan on three, it was reassuring to hear.

I'm glad @HeatherlovesKenny asked about this, though. I'm in the same boat- about three weeks from my due date and my kids will be a bit more than two and a half years apart.

@Mrs. Jacks: I'm hoping you will do an updated post on co-sleeping with the new baby. I'm planning on trying to put new baby in her crib, but I don't know how long it will last. I ended up co-sleeping with my first because it was the only way I could actually get sleep while breastfeeding, and I have a feeling I will succumb to the same temptation this time. (I have to sleep!) My older daughter has been taking to transitioning to her own bed pretty well, but she still ends up in bed with us in the middle of the night a couple times a week.

I'm so nervous about this, as I'm due in 20 days! My LO is 15 months old and has just started to act up in the last week. Tonight we did 4 timeouts in the space of 1.5 hours. Yikes!

I think the hardest part will be the mornings, trying to keep LO happy and baby content.