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I don't think anyone ever wins from this question! I never ask, I feel like I can tell myself if I look fat

Once, a long time ago, he said "Who doesn't look fat sometimes?" He was trying to be funny. It was not. And *then* he followed up with "If you think you're fat, we can go exercise together." He's always been shockingly honest (on the flip side, though, I get no empty compliments )

He always responds with "no, you look beautiful!" even though I know I can't ALWAYS look as good as he thinks.

Mine would also say no before he even looked.

The other day I asked him if my shirt made me look pregnant. He said "unfortunately not". Someone has baby fever!

He always says no, but I like to think if I did look fat - in clothes or out of them - he'd be honest. He will usually say that if I feel fat, I could exercise more, but that I don't look fat.

he'll usually say something like "you never look fat," which is sweet but not helpful, haha. I usually will ask if something looks too tight, or if it looks okay in general, since that gets a more useful response. though sometimes he'll say i look great without even looking at me, grrr

He would say "no, the fat makes you look fat." It's a joke though that we've always said to each other.

@Mrs. Polish: We have the same joke! But then he would be serious. If something isn't flattering on me, he'd tell me (solicited or not). Some women might think he's being a jerk. But I appreciate the honesty. Ultimately I make the decision myself, sometimes I just don't agree with him and think I look awesome This just happened last week, he said a pair of pants I got weren't flattering because they draw attention to my problem area. But I still liked them, so I disregarded his comment.

If it did not: "Not at all" with a look that screams, "You're crazy."
If it did: "I think you look better in __________."

He has generally learned not to answer that question.

@banana: Ugh DH does the same stupid joke. I'm hungry. Hi, Hungry, I'm Brian. It's so annoying! Yet he thinks it's sooooooooo funny.

ETA: Lately he's started saying things like, yeah, that looks good, especially considering you had a baby two months ago. I'm like, seriously, you can stop with that looks good. Thanks.

@rahlyrah: Yep, this is my husband exactly. And when I say, "Dude, you aren't even looking at me. Try again." Then he'd look at me and say the same exact thing, no matter what.

I'm okay with it. lol

He would respond with some sarcastic statement..."yeahhhh you look huge" while rolling his eyes. Basically he got sick of me asking when he thinks I look good.

I guess it works, I rarely make negative comments or questions about myself to him anymore!

Followed up with the *Do you understand the words that are comin outta my mouth?* (Again, a la Chris Tucker in Rush Hour)

He usually answers "which a ph baby!" Heh.
Mine is completely honest, which while I may not always like the answer, I appreciate the honestly. Usually the answer is that something isn't flattering on me.

I'll usually ask "does this/do I look ok" but it's more so a whole outfit look than just the pants or shirt. If I have to ask if I look fat in something, it's probably too small and I already know the answer

He tells me I don't, then he offers to take the baby if I want to workout, lol. To be fair, I'm pretty vocal about this extra 20 pounds.

@MrsSCB: Ha! Now I want to see hug...and rolllllll.

I never ever ask that because I know that even if it did he would never have the heart to tell me the truth. Besides I feel fat in everything so I don't go looking for confirmation lol!

@MrsSCB: I too firmly believe there's a Friends reference for every life situation!

Haha, I know better than to ask that question! But when I was feeling insecure postpartum after DD 1, he was so kind and always reminded me how beautiful I was, and that my body had just made a human.