For DD's birthday, we invited a few close friends over for cake (3 families with 4 kids total, and an unmarried friend with no kids who is basically like an uncle to all the kids). Friend with no kids emailed to say he would be out of town but would try to get back in time. Okay, no problem. Today he texts to say that the buddy he's going out of town with wants to know if he can bring his 2 children to DD's "party" because they're moving and his wife will be home packing and it would be convenient to get the kids out of the house. Although I've heard a lot about this friend over the years, I have never met him or his kids. It's just such a weird thing. I feel like I should be cool and say "no problem," but I know DH will be like WTH and probably not very happy about it. Am I wrong to want to say no? Is there a polite way to say no? I'm just so surprised my friend even asked this that I don't know what to say.
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I would just let them come! We had a friend who asked us to stop inviting him to parties (since he doesn't have kids) text us on the day of LO 1's party to ask if it was ok to come with his new gf and her two kids. Kinda annoying but they came and had a good time and we had enough food.
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I'm sorry I think that's weird. I would just be like you're trying to keep it small and only people that LO knows.
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How old is your DD? I probably wouldn't mind myself, but if you don't want to do it, I'd just text him back and say it's a super small party so it'd be awkward for the random friend to be there. Maybe add on to the end that you'd love to meet him some time and that he should introduce you soon, to soften turning him down.
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Yeah... It's not like a casual play date or get together... It seems like you can just be honest with this friend about it, right?
But personally I actually might just say sure why not!
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I think you can go either way. Talk to your DH. It probably would end up working out just fine. But at the same time I can understand wanting to keep it small and close.
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That is really weird to me. I mean if you don't mind then obviously just go for it. But, if he wanted the kids out of the house then take them to the park! I would say no personally.
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I totally get wanting to say no to strangers coming over especially when a friend is using you for entertainment purposes. However, I'd probably say yes since it will make it easier for your actual friend to attend.
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I can totally understand not wanting them to come. It's kind of a funny request. Are the kids similar age to yours? I'd probably say yes because then your friend would be able to come, and the more the merrier (as long as the kids aren't way older.) I'm chuckling thinking one day lo will look at birthday party pics and be like 'who are these people?'
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The more the merrier! I'd let them come!
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How big is your house? 3 extra people at my tiny condo would be really crowded. But if you have a good size house and backyard maybe it wouldn't be a big deal? I think you could say no and say it's going to be too crowded with that many kids.
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I guess it's ungenerous, but I would say no, too. It's weird, imposing, and your intimate birthday party isn't a ready-made "activity" for some strangers. Plus, your actual friend will be preoccupied with them the whole time so you probably won't be able to catch up? I like @raspberries's suggestion.
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I would probably just go with it
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The more the merrier!
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It's not a request I'd feel comfortable making, but for a good friend I wouldn't really care or think twice. But nothing wrong with saying No either..
Oh wait I just re-read it that it's not your single friend who wants them to come, it's the guy you've never met who is requesting? Hmm that's really weird!
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We've had people do something similar to us a couple of times now. I would never have the balls to be that person asking and DH is a people pleaser and despite my protests would say yes. If you and DH agree it's a no, seems like an easy solution.
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It sounds like you're having a really small party so I'd just give that as the reason if you don't want party crashers.
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